This girl is amazing we connect on every level. She fell asleep during her prayers and woke up the next morning and finished them because she fell asleep before she asked GOD to keep me in her life. I really like this girl BUT she has cheated before. I've always been taught if they can do it once they can do it again with ease. This is really thrashing me Please help me....
2006-10-31 02:45:47 · 13 answers · asked by I am smart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing u can do is use the information u already have to your advantage. in other words, remember that she has cheated, but file it away in the back of your mind. as long as she's being honest and truthful with u, what she did in the past doesn't matter. but the MINUTE. the SECOND, u get the slightest feeling that she's not keepin it real, ditch her.
p.s. it's important that u do your best to keep your feelings under control until she's proven herself trustworthy. u also might wanna be sure not to put her up on too high a pedestal. don't act like some love sick wussy with a chick who like's smooth, cool, playa type's. i.e. make sure to hit that.
2006-10-31 02:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her then give her a chance. You're not perfect. I'm sure you've made some wrong choices in your life and you will probably make some more. Try not to judge her based on her past. We all have things in our past that we would like to forget and we try our best never to do it again. If you have any problems regarding this young lady talk to her about it and see where she stands. You need to be up front with her about yourself too. Remember you and no body else is perfefct. However, do not forego your values and beliefs in hopes that you can change her, only she can make the changes in her life. You can be patient, just as you would want others to be patient with you in some circumstances, I'm sure. Keep an open mind, don't be foolish and don't be judgemental. Everybody can change. Unfortunately you've been mislead when you were taught that once someone does something they may do it again. Sure we may do things again because we have memories and memories are want influences us in many of the decision we make. It doesn't mean we'll always make the same decision. Remember we do grow up and acquire wisdom through our experiences and our prayers. But don't waste do much of your time in any situation that you are uncomfortable with. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. This young lady is not the only "fish" in the sea. Don't spend to much time trying to figure this out. If it doesn't feel right, move on.
2006-10-31 03:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two schools of thought. One is that once a person shows that they will cheat once, they will always cheat again. The second is that some people just haven't found what they are looking for yet.
I am of the first school of thought, since I beleive that if you are with someone and decide that they are not right for you, you need to do the honorable thing and end it with them, not go behind their back and cheat on them. That's pretty low.
Besides, even if you do stay with her, you'll always wonder if she is cheating on you. Better to just leave it alone.
2006-10-31 02:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by pdkflyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Kinda confused about the prayer thing, but I can help with this. I'm dating someone that has cheated too. Not on me, but with his previous g/f of 6 years. He cheated more than once on her and it's very hard to swallow that and keep going without fear. VERY HARD. What makes me so different from her? He did it to her, he could do it to me. WELL, of course he could do it to me. I can't help that nor control it. I have to know that he loves me and is with me now. He cheated on her b/c he wasn't feeling connection physically or emotionally with her (which is no excuse in my book) but the fact is, he did cheat. I can't help that. But, just b/c he did that to her doesn't mean he'll do that to me! You have to look at it like that as well! Provide her with everything she wants/needs and she won't go looking elsewhere for the connections...understand? We talk a lot. And the more you talk to her, the more you'll learn what she is all about and what she needs to keep her happy. Don't by any means stress yourself out with fear b/c you'll push her away. TRUST ME! I've had to hold back so much on venting my fears about him hurting me one day, b/c that will push him away if I don't trust in him. Good luck and tell yourself every morning when you wake.......give her everything possible (emotionally) and be honest.
2006-10-31 02:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That doesnt mean any thing ... I have cheated on my first ever boy friend... and know it being 2 years later and i have another boy friend... i havent cheated on him and ive been with him for a 1 and 3 months... if she likes you enough she wont cheat....
But dont dogg her bout it either she will get so mad bout you not trusting her that she might do it?...
2006-10-31 02:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Someonetolove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give her a chance but the only thing is you would have to keep an eye on her .but trust her unless she gives you reason not to .some people can change but it is very seldom but she just might be one of this people. you never know unless you give it a try ..............it sounds like you believe in god a lot so if you do then you should know that god has a mate for you and if its her then god will take care of the rest if its not there will be the right one...................good luck
2006-10-31 03:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a big mistake for you. There are lots of amazing, non-cheating girls out there. Go and find one. The prayers story sounds like a big invention to me.
2006-10-31 02:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 01:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say anyone can cheat even if they havent done it before its not always true when they say once a cheater always a cheater maybe she did not love the guy she was with and thats y she cheated...if i were u talk to her and let her know how u feel for her and see if she feels the same about u if she says she does then date her..
2006-10-31 02:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, go for it, but be open to the possibility that she will cheat. If you know it could be there, then it is less pain full if you find out it is. You also might want to talk to her about it if you get suspicious.
2006-10-31 02:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋