if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
2006-10-31 02:33:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have children and your child came to you with this dilemma, would you tell him/her to
(a)just wait and see, maybe he/she will get over it and then you will be together, just wait
or
(b)you deserve someone who will care for you and only be true to you and not leave you hanging, forget this person and move on
i would pick b
if you are a parent, set a good example, look for someone who will be true to you and only you, because children see everything and understand all. if you have children, stop the cycle of picking the wrong unavailable women.
she's contacting him in all ways because she wants to open some lines of communication, she loves him. shes not over him and may not be for a long time since they had a two year relationship. unfortunately, you are on standby (rebound), not a good place to be.
yes it is possible to fake happiness and be miserable inside. (which she is)
the question isn't how long will it take her to get over him, the question is how long will you deal with this. are u unstable yourself and if you are seek professional counseling to get over whatever ailing you. be strong, not just for yourself but if you have children, you would want them to grow up and find themselves in a healthy relationship too.
2006-10-31 03:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is def not over him. You have to ask her what her feelings are towards you and towards her ex. If the guy is not responding, he doesn't want anything w/ her. If she still insists on contacting him, she def misses him, wants something with him. She might even regret the fact that she broke up w/ him. You never know if it is a rebound w/ you. She might just still be around, because her ex is not responding and she might not wanna be alone. If this is happening in your relationship within the first couple of months, then you have to know this relationship is not going to work out. Talk to her and show her that you are obviously willing to work things out, but there has to be honesty, trust, and knowledge that you both want to be w/ each other to make the relationship work. Don't be scared if you think things might fall apart. You need to know and not knowing is just going to make you feel more miserable.
2006-10-31 03:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's completely possible for girls to seem fine on the outside and be really torn up on the inside. And it sounds to me like she's still not over him, and is holding out for some stupid reason, or maybe she feels guilty because she was the cause of their breakup. I don't know. You're probably also not a rebound, but she might still just be using you to make herself feel better. Or she could be one of those girls who always need a boyfriend, even though she's not over the old one yet. I really don't know what to tell you about how she feels about you though.
2006-10-31 02:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she isn't thinking about your relationship together. There is a reason why this guy isn't contacting her back. If you are aware of the messages she is contantly sending him, she obviously isn't over him yet. I would end the relationship with her , she obviously doesn't care for you enough. Don't let her break your heart b/c she still loves someone else.
2006-10-31 02:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going through her messages? That is bad. But still. She needs to stop being in contact with the other guy if she truly cares for YOU. She wouldn't "care" if he wrote back or not if she didn't have feelings. Seems she is still hung up on him. You deserve better.
2006-10-31 02:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly, i think of a guy particularly needs and seems for the stable women. somebody they'd continually come domicile to and understand they have been a hundred% committed in direction of them. they'd continually bypass out and (for loss of a greater physically powerful be conscious) get a chew of a ss yet, that's not each thing. i think of it comes all the way down to honesty, love, and friendship.
2016-10-03 03:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she still has feelings for the ex....you should talk to her about it ...if she says that she doesnt have feelings for him then let her know how it makes you feel that she is still contacting him....some girls want what they cant have...if she left him for you now she wants him b/c she cant have him
2006-10-31 02:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her! Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She doesn't want him but wants to make sure he still wants her which obviously he doesn't if he isn't answering her and she's playing games with you. Don't you deserve better? I say you do.
2006-10-31 02:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥kissie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant let go off her x she still loves him and till she can get him out of her system your gonna have to put up with it or leave sorry to be so blunt i hope it works out for you but it dont look good for the home team(you)
2006-10-31 02:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing too serious The lady is undecided. Give her time do not press the panic button
2006-10-31 02:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋