Here is th deal...Last night my girlfriend broke up with me and said this cant work out. So she ended up telling me that we are on a week break without talking to each other for her to thing. But i know her outcome... She said she cant ever trust me ever cause i lied over something stupid that i was hanging out with my friends 2 months ago... This is her first real relationship with a guy and i think she is confused and believes everything is perfect. What should i do...its driving me crazy already to not call her, but i need to make sure she gives us a chance, not to thing of that one stupid lie in our relationship....I love her so much and we spoke about future plans and everything.... What should I do....
2006-10-31 02:31:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she doesn't trust you anymore you can't do anything!! even if she decides that she wants to be with you again your relationship won't last for too long!!! try to forget her and find someone else
2006-10-31 02:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing to do would be to give her some time. Let her think about what she wants from this relationship. It also gives you time to think as well. Leave it a week like she said then give her a call. Explain to her that you will never lie to her again and that you do really love her and you want things to work out between you two. Tell her what you said that you can't throw this relationship away over one little mistake. Just make sure that you are always honest to her and that you want this relationship to be based on trust and that you know that you made a mistake and you will never do anything to hurt her again. I know that you love her but you have to support her on any decisions that she makes be it that if she does want to break up for good tell her that you respect it and that you still love her and tell her that you still would like to be friends with her. That way you can always keep your options open for the future. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-31 10:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter NOW!, but you must understand that lying is not a 'normal' thing. Her values are apparently more higher than yours. If you can't learn to change your value system then you 2 are probably a mismatch. In her view a lie is a lie, she can either trust you or she can't, the good point is that when you have the trust of this type person it is strong a real. It would take some time but if you have the character to pull it off you can heal this thing.
2006-10-31 10:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest toward her, tell her exactly how you feel but try to avoid arguing at all costs. Show her how much she means to you by making sure you are always honest and dependable - don't lie again. Also try asking her what you can do to make things better. Maybe she has a certain requirement in mind that you don't know about? Speaking as a girl let me tell you that we females are very confusing and can be demanding - you need to be able to talk straight with her and listen. Not just hear her, but really listen and try to understand. She needs to do the same for you, but lead by example.
2006-10-31 10:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by crazylittlewriterchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her, if you guys are ever gonna be together agian. she will think about will think about the relationship a little bit more. Give her some space. Let her take her time on this. It will work out in the end.
2006-10-31 10:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by M.M.D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a week, buddy! If you can't trust her to make an informed decision about whether or not she even is into you, how well do you think she's going to do trying to figure you out when you have a deeper relationship? Wait and hope. Just remind yourself you have to wait if you really want her b/c if she is really going to fall for you, she has to decide to let herself fall.
2006-10-31 10:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend put me on a week break no contact because i got mouthy i cried and got sick it was a nightmare when he called me he was stern and i took it the wrong way and started acussing him of seeing others (he cheated on me in the past) now im bitter towards him all though i love him i feel that he put me on this hold so he could go out with another...he said i was being foolish just give her the week and see what happens talk too her shes gotta learn to trust you over again and believe me its not easy to trust and have it broken she feels she needs this time to rethink i hope it goes well for you ...
2006-10-31 11:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send flowers with an apology note, if it doesn't work do it again but don't stalk her it'll only make her angry(er), still give her a few (3)days to think then start persuading her, tell her how much you love her. if she still doesn't want to get back after a couple of weeks try and get over her. good luck. (and remember don't try getting ahold of her for like 3 days, give her some space).
something like that happened to me with a guy I was dating, now we've been married for almost 4 yrs.
2006-10-31 10:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Maria Felix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her straight up how you feel. How you don't want to be on a break. How you regret lying to her over something silly. How you will never do it again and how much you love her. Tell her to give you a chance to talk to her because you really want to make it work.
Good luck!
2006-10-31 10:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girlfriend, because as sure as eggs is eggs she will move on. Take the hint. And next time learn your lesson and don't lie. There is nothing worse.
2006-10-31 10:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋