Ok....my ex CLAIRE has admitted to me that she made a big mistake and wishes that she had never called things off so soon and now she realises that she took me for granted and that i was the only guy that ever treated her right.
Trouble is im not single.......i got with a girl 3 days after Claire ended things.....an i am only just over a week into this new girl.....but i still think about claire all the time.....
Dont Want to hurt my ex........dont wanna get back with her because we have tried it once and failed...
Should i be a friend to her?
2006-10-31 02:27:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Was with her for 3 months so not a very long time really.
We got on well, even the break-up wasnt that bad it was an honest chat between us...no crying and swearwords....i do have respect for this girl - as well as my new girl.
I dont want to be with Claire...i am trying to move on, just because i started seeing sum1 new after 3 days doesnt mean i dont still think about claire a lot
2006-10-31 02:40:50 · update #1
Being a friend will never work - sex will get in the way. You either need to get back with her or forget her. Hard but better in the long run. I don't believe many people can stay friends with exs.
2006-10-31 02:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound quite young, so you have all your life ahead of you. It's a good idea just to be friends with Claire - but don't get into two-timing stuff - be honest with your new girlfriend. Time will sort this out if you are straightforward with both of them about your decisions and activities. Your new g/f may be a bit jealous, of course and may even put you in a position where you have to choose. If that happens I'd still say be friends with Claire until you are clear about your feelings. And your new g/f may just be a rebound romance for you.
2006-10-31 02:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you still be a friend?
Yes - but you can have a break from her for a while while you move on with your new flame.
Keep in touch with emails for now but steer clear of sms'ing and calls. Your x needs to cool off a bit and let bygones be bygones.
As I say - you can always pick up the friendship bit later when things have reached an even keel again.
2006-10-31 03:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 months isn't long and given you quickly moved into another relationship it is likely you already know the answer. I used to look back at ended relationships with rose tinted glasses, but You and I both know if it dind't work then it won't work now. It was your ex who ended it so don't feel bad. Of course be a friend. Tell her you want to be a friend but can't go back to the relationship, and leave it at that.
2006-10-31 02:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by The Guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can be her friend, and draw the line at FRIEND, then you should do it. Especially if you care for her, and she cares for you- and you guys enjoy the time spent. You have only started up things with the new girl- it might not work out.... If it doesn't you could always try things with Claire again, at first you don't succeed- you can always try again.
2006-10-31 02:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you found another girl so soon afterwards, suggests you two were never much of an item. You could try being friends, but if she wants you as a b/f, that may not work out so well.
2006-10-31 02:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you couldn't of really loved her or it would of taken you longer than 3 days to get over Claire,if you really don't want to be with her just tell her,at the end of the day she is the one messing you around,offer friendship but nothing else an if she don't take that,well never mind you at least tried.
2006-10-31 02:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously weren't THAT into Claire to get together with someone else just 3 days after you split up so why get back with her?
Also I suspect she's not actually that bothered about you, she just doesn't want you to be showering your affection on someone else while she has obviously been left high and dry.
She's made her bed, make her lie in it.
2006-10-31 02:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest tell her that you do not want to get back with her but it does not hurt to be her friend. just be nice this girl has by the sounds of things has alot of feelings going on. good luck
2006-10-31 02:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, there is no harm in being friends-the trouble is your new girl might not see it like this but I think its best to be honest and start things off as you wish to carry on, therefore new girl will not be disillusioned in you............am I going on-sorry x
2006-10-31 02:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋