I was staying the night at a friends house saturday night and we went to a party. My dad was there! But it wasn't abnormal or anything like that. See I live with my grandparents. Here lately my dads been hanging with my friends more than me and being at every party I am. He's never been a strict dad but the other night he was really pissing me off. Ok when I go to a party i'm the life of it, i'm the one on the table dancing and yeah I made out with a few guys but it's all in good fun. And he had the nerve to tell me to stop drinking. If you don't know how it feels to have one of you're best friends sleep with you're dad or have girls young enough to be your sister as you're new step mommy i'll tell you now it sucks. Am I getting mad over nothing or should I really have listened to him.
2006-10-31 02:18:29 · 28 answers · asked by Kayla E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All fathers can be jerks. It's in their job descriptions. He was probably right about the drinking. He should take a long hard look at his own life before he criticizes anyone else's. The fact that he felt a mildly fatherly twinge and felt a need to tell you to stop drinking is a good sign. If it bothered him, that means he cares and it also means he has started to grow up. It may be a long road with giant pot holes along the way, but it's a start. Have you tried telling him that you love him and that you love that he's a cool guy, but also wish he could be more Dad like too sometimes? Maybe if you talk to him and tell how much it bothers you for him to date your friends and ask him to please respect you enough not to...he might listen. If not ...live your life for you and don't follow in his foot steps.
2006-10-31 02:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it hard to be influenced by someone that hasn't been there for you and it's especially hard for your dad to an authority figure when he's out doing the same thing you're doing. Maybe you should change your friends just to get away from your dad because I know its kind of odd to be dancing at a party and have your dad partying with you.
2006-10-31 02:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be asking him what the heck is he doing at a party that you are at? Mad I would be furious and I would tell him how you feel. He may have been right to tell you to stop drinking knowing as things can happen under the influence but you really should clear these other issues up with him before it gets anymore out of hand.
2006-10-31 02:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad has problems. Some kind of professional help is probably in order for this one. It's hard to attribute that kind of behavior to a midlife crisis or something of that sort. In the meantime, you need to evaluate what your doing and who your friends are. Best friends sleeping with your parents is a big red warning sign. If it was consentual and she was of age, can you really call her a friend? Sometimes you have to clean the "friend" house. Normal is out the window here.
2006-10-31 03:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's noting normal in anything you wrote. I bet you are the life of the party while dancing on tables and making out with guys all in "good fun". Slutty behavior is always an attention getter. How proud your father must be. But I bet he is proud since he's apparently a deviant who preys on young girls. Springer couldn't do better than this.
2006-10-31 02:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you of legal drinking age? If so you may want to explain to your dad that as you are hanging with your friends and if he insists on hanging with younger people he may see things he doesn't approve of and just have to deal. You may need to talk this through with a professional otherwise I see trouble for you down the road.
2006-10-31 03:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hopey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partying with your dad when you get older is OK, on occasions, but having him hang out with you and your friends sounds too me like bad news..I couldn't imagine my friends sleeping with my dad, I really don't think i would want that person as a friend and your dad shouldn't put you through that. There is boundry lines...
2006-10-31 02:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by kelliejo0875 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not normal.
Your dad needs to draw the line between parent and friend. He is your dad, he shouldn't be banging your friends, and he also shouldn't be hanging out with them- they are your friends! He needs to be reminded that he isn't your age. If he is going to act like your friend, he shouldn't be telling you what to do. If he wants to act like your father, he should be at home, waiting for you to call so he can give your drunk *** a ride home. Ask him which one he wants to be, and if all this makes you uncomfortable, let him know. I would tell him that you want him to have fun, but with his own friends- that are more his age.
2006-10-31 02:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad has a mid-life crisis. It's normal for men of his age to hit on younger, ok, much younger girls, just not all of them get married to them. But when he saw you partying, I guess he just snapped into the "DAD MODE". That's not really normal, but not really abnormal either. I guess you can just keep carrying on as you always do, you know better.
2006-10-31 02:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, right? Perhaps you both need to sit down and have a long talk about it. Dads can be difficult, but can we all? As for step-moms being your age, yeah, that would suck. Try talking it out.. Good luck!!
2006-10-31 02:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋