Is sex really a friendship-killer?

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Answers based on personal experience would be greatly appreciated

Answer 1

Hell no.... I have plenty of friends that I once had sex with. Though it can be if both parties are not mature about it afterwards. It does seem to be harder if it was more than just sex to begin with though. If you truly had feelings for the person staying friends can be a real problem but if it was just clean no strings attached sex then stay friends is very easy.

Answer 2

From personal experience I can tell you that it isn't always a friendship killer. It all depends on the maturity of the people involved, and the intentions of each one. What I can tell you is that the friendship changes forever.....not that it's necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes, if the actual sexual experience turns out incredible, it can take the friendship to another level. There is more openess, more trust, and more sharing of intimate things. On the other hand, if one of the two people involved realizes that they have fallen in love or that they have very strong feelings for the other person, but that other person doesn't feel the same way.....there will obviously be a problem. Also....if the actual sexual experience does not turn out as expected, and there is a bit of disappointment.....it can also affect the friendship adversely.
I have had a couple of personal experiences and not because I chose or planned them, but because is happened naturally. In one of the experiences everything turned out unbelieveable, and the openess, and compatibility we found with eachother at that particular moment really made our friendship much stronger. To this day, 10 years later, we are still very good friends (even though we were not involved sexually for a long time). I did have one more experience, and although we did remain friends afterwards......there was a big difference; she fell in love. She tried to hide it from me for a while, but she began acting a little different with me.....specially when we were around other girls. She began to show a little bit of possessiveness and jealousy. When I approached her about it she denied it at first, but when she realized I wasn't going to be convinced that easily, she confessed. She told me that she had fallen in love with me and she thought if I found out, I would break up the friendship. We worked things out, and we're still friends after all these years. She's happily married and has 3 kids, and we still keep in touch. She does remind me every once in a while that she's never really forgotten me.....or what she felt at that time, but that she's glad we've always remained friends. I'm glad too.
Believe me.....it doesn't turn out like this for everyone! Honesty, Maturity, and straight-up openess with eachother makes the big difference. Either way.....whether it turns out good or bad.....the friendship will change forever for obvious reasons. Getting involved sexually with someone changes alot of things between two people.....it is when a person is most vulnerable emotionally, and many things can happen.....also, you know for a fact that you'll never see the person the same way again.
Best of Luck!

Answer 3

The thing is that friends are friends. When sex enters the picture it usually takes it to another level. But not always for both people involved. Unfortunately the one who looks at it as just sex ends up hurting the others feelings and you just ruined a good friendship. Not everyone is like this. I only speak from experience.

Answer 4

i,m a man of 41 now and for what i saw & lived.....no! Iwont sya its a frienship killer but it can be. Usually after a couple of months one of the 'friends' would tend to get closer to form a relationship or commitment....which is fine if both feels the same.
I had one great friend...gorgeous redhead & we were great friends sharing our happiness & problems for about a year when one night she wanted sex. I was involved & so were she but both unhappy. SO we ended up intimate friends for about 3 years. It was really great. By this time we were both single for a long while! the sex ended when she wanted to get serious & talking marriage...i wasnt ready to commit..so the sex died out over a couple of months. We stayed great friends & still have contact till today but only via phone calls. She is married today & so am I in different relationdships.
It was a great time but the frienship still is the best!!
Hope this helps...

Answer 5

Sex itself isn't a friendship killer. I am married to my best friend ever and sex is huge in our relationship.

What ruins friendships is sex with expectations. Expecting sex to lead to friendship will never work. Expecting friends to have "meaningless sex" never works because it really always means giving the most intimate part of yourself away and that is neither trivial or meaningless.

Sex buddies drift way...

Answer 6

It depends on how good of a friend they are. When you get involved with a friend everything changes. Very awkward. And when you start dating other people or they start dating other people the sex will either stop and someone is going to be resentful or you continue and things just get messy. And if things don't work out you've lost a potentially good friend.

Answer 7

Sex certainly can be a friendship killer So take precautions.

Sex for the sake of becoming proud parents shouldn't be a friendship killer.

Answer 8

Is sex really an assassin of friendship? Yes because then it never returns to be the same thing.

Answer 9

It depends on what you are BOTH looking for. I once had an ongoing sexual relationship with a guy friend and it was incredible. We knew we didn't want to get serious but still respected each other and it was all clear. If you BOTH agree on the terms, it can be SUPER HOT!

Answer 10

Yes