my dad treats me very brutually.he imposes all kinds of restrictions on me and wants me to work according to him.as per his views i should get up at 4 in morning,take a bath immediately,study for the whole day and that too only physics in his presence.he has kept 4 tutors for me for physics ,chemistry,maths and computers.at 7 in the evening he wants me to take my dinner and he insults me for very small reasons or rather no reason,and that too in front of my whole family.we live in a joint family and i am preparing for the iit's.it am very tensed.please help me.whenmy results come he shouts on me. i am not able to concentrate on my work or rather anything.
2006-10-31 02:09:02 · 17 answers · asked by juno 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your Dad's behavior is mentally abusing. It was probably passed down to him by one of his parents. Until you are of legal age, there is not a lot you can do. Try to get involved in out side activities that keeps you busy and away from home as much as possible. Talk to a member in your church or a peer councilor in school. Try to keep it mentally off your mind. Its not you! He has a very serious problem. You are a product of family conditioning. Continue to voice your feelings, that is so healthy. Break this change, being passed down from generation to generation. I know what it is like to have a Dad like yours. I was you, once a upon a time. I have nightmares still about growing up and the awful things that I went threw. I eventually, found some humor in the way he acted and turned my living nigh mares into seeing pity for him, being stuck in a world that he had very little control over, because he just didn't get it. I refused to let him ruin my life. The really bad memories I reprogrammed then and actually there was lots of things to laugh about, because of how far fetched he was. Don't let him break you, you break this pattern, make it a better world, so when your children come into this world, they will have a basically normal life. Who's to say what is normal these days! :) So just make it a happier life. I will pray for you! Hang in there. God only puts on us what we can handle. He knows your strengths. If you ever want to talk about this email me. I can be here for you! "Hang on!"
2006-10-31 02:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself! Talk to your father and tell him that the way he's treating you is extremely rude and disrespectful! If this doesn't work out, make arrangements with a relative or a friend to move out of his house! You don't need to deal with this and you deserve better! It seems to me that your father has some serious issues going on and needs help dealing with his anger and disrespecful ways.
2006-10-31 03:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for counselling yourself first with your mother or someone elder in your family and tell the counseller your and dads problem.Then the counseller will see your dad and advice him accordingly.He is expecting too much of you but abusing you is not good and that means he needs a psychiatrist or counselling.Dont feel bad about it but in todays competitive society everyone's expecting too much from their children and so one is likely to feel depressed about it .Just assure your dad that you are working hard and will certainly give your fullest to your studies but his constant scoldings have negative effects on you and are disturbing your studies.Dont even forget to tell him that you love him.After all he's your dad ,won't he understand that much.So just go ahead and talk....
2006-10-31 02:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by tej 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang. I feel for ya.
Maybe you should try telling him that. But if he's not the type to listen you're pretty much screwed. As the child under his roof you have no other choice unless his behavior is physical abuse.
I'm 19 and it sucks. I just started not giving a damn about the parent. But I try to succeed for me. Just not as strict.
2006-10-31 02:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by jussgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if that is a bad thing, Hun he cares about you and your education , witch is better then some fathers who aren't even in there child's life. just make sure you listen to him he is looking out for your best, i know it doesn't seem like it now , later when you have a wonderful career you will be thankful!
2006-10-31 02:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you able to move out? I say get out as soon as you can!
My father was evil in every way. He's dead now-he died a lonely man all alone. He chose the path. Your father sounds awful and if you can escape, do so immediately!!!
2006-10-31 02:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by gagam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just has a very poor way of showing you that he cares. You're lucky in a way because you could have the type of father that doesn't push you to do anything at all!!
2006-10-31 02:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the surface from this perspective it sounds like emotional abuse. Are there any adults that you can trust to talk to about this?
By the way, the expression is "I am fed up..."
2006-10-31 02:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure he only wants the best for you...it won't improve unless you tell him how you feel...u should try telling him what you wrote for the last 4 sentences..hope it all works out
2006-10-31 02:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by n8dawwgg69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soup is healthy
2006-10-31 02:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋