He yells and recently things got even worse. What do i do? He has never acted like that before! when i look at him i see that cold hollow look he gave me the other night. Will that go away? Now i am doubting myself and actions, am i really stupid? Can i get past this? please help!!
2006-10-31 01:46:15 · 19 answers · asked by collegechick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK Your asking for help?Will you take it? Please leave I know you love him and you will go through heartache but this will not change in fact it only gets worse.I was in BIG love with someone and we dated for almost 2 years.It was such a great relationship,all the good things that needed to be there were.We had so many good times together.Then 1 day or at least thats the way it seemed to me he turned into a monster.Although looking back now I see all the warning signs.Hindsight is always 20/20. I didnt want to separate from him because I was afraid of the horrible heartache i would feel. One night we were driving on the expressway and he started accusing me of cheating on him,although it was him doing the cheating in reality, and he backhanded me,broke my nose and I was wearing glasses and they slashed my eyelid i needed 10 stitches,he forever changed my face,after that i stayed for 1 more month before i left for good and he completly destroyed me in just 1 month. I now need knee surgery in both knees from his abuse. I am in litigation with him for over 1 year and it is now in fed.court,I found out he did the same things to his first wife,this man bugged my car my cell phone locked me out of all areas of the house.embarressed me in front of his friends and i could go on forever. I would have laughed at you if you told me this would ever happen before it did.Abusiveness escalates it doesnt get better,please leave you deserve better.Noone should ever be made to be afraid leave before you live in my nightmarish world from living with that .Please I beg you go.
2006-10-31 02:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by maryann c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you done something that made him mad? was he like this already since you got married or is this just happening recently? if this is something that he has been doing just recently, i think you have to find out what is causing this outburts. Maybe he is under a lot of strain because of a problem that he cannot tell you. If this is so, then i think you should be there to support him and make him feel that whatever the problem is, you are ready to listen and help him out. but if he has been this way ever since you got married, then i think you should talk to him about it, ask him why he is doing it and tell him how you feel everytime he does it. ask him if he could avoid doing it cuz it scares you. if after this, he still does it then, i think you should ask for professional help or leave him for a while.
2006-10-31 02:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered whether he is using drugs? If not, he could be suffering from a medical condition that has altered his behavior. In any event, you have no control over this man's behavior. You can only control your own actions--and you owe it to yourself and those who care about you to ensure your own safety. You are scared for a reason--seek help from your family, friends, school counselor, etc. Don't wait until things get worse....figure out how to get to safety. Don't feel the need to explain your actions to him...just go.
2006-10-31 01:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at the situation and if he got violent you need to back off for a while. Find out what got him that upset. You don't need to stay if he is being abusive because it may be worse next time. Be careful with him...he may not be the nice guy you think he is.
2006-10-31 01:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk this over with him. Let him know how you feel and that he's scaring you. If he doesn't understand, then maybe he doesn't love you as much anymore. If he cares for you he'll understand and try to change. Just express how you feel and how you don't want to lose the love you two share. Communication is the best answer.
2006-10-31 01:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be honest with you when you love them you try to find ways to convince yourself that they will change, you may be lucky if he can change.
Has he ever hit you or attempted to because if that is the case don't wait for it to happen agian because you will convince yourself that he'll never do it again and you are going to end up hurt physicaly and emotionally.
Love your self enough to walk away from such a relationship you deserve better
2006-10-31 01:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by kkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From exsperience things usually get worse and worse and worse. If you truely love him and him you, maybe you should sit down and talk to him on how this makes you feel and its not ok to treat you that way and if he gets angry on how you feel, then maybe you should weigh your options and tell yourself do you really want to have to put up with this every time he gets upset. There are to many men out there that dont have this temper and you deserve better.
2006-10-31 01:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by kelliejo0875 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out right now he is not gonna change and it will get worse. Make sure that you go somewhere safe and if you dont have friends that can help hide and protect you call your local sheffifs office and they can direct you to a safe house. It is important that you do not tell him your going just go no matter what. please
2006-10-31 01:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 08:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mistake love and being scared. If you love someone theres no reason to fear them. If they loved you they wouldn't do that to you.
Love isn't supposed to hurt you emotionally like this. Get out and find someone who'll appreciate you and will look at you with love, not hollowly.
2006-10-31 01:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋