I'm have an issue. in the beginnig of the summer i caught my boyfriend cheatin. we were havin a lot of problems at the time. in the last almost 3 years we been together this was the only incident we had. anyway needless to say after i found out i started talkin to this other guy. and i really liked him he was sweet fine always wanted to spend time wit me i mean all i could ask for. BUT! i still love my boyfriend, we talked our problems out and decided to stay together we renewed our lease on our apartment and everything. it was goin good but i still kept in touch with my friend because he made me feel good inside. Now at times I find myself reflecting on what happened and often get into pety arguements with him when he leaves accusing him of going out and cheatin again. Now i've been calling my friend again and sometime back in sept we went out and i had a blast now i'm in love with him too. i'm confused how can i trust my boyfriend again and get over my friend. help me!?????????!!!!!!
2006-10-31 01:35:23 · 20 answers · asked by Princess Nykki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm still so attracted to my boyfriend i just really want to know how to trust him i me what if he's tellin the truth what if he's not doing that anymore.
2006-10-31 02:14:17 · update #1
if you b/f cheated on you and you forgiven him then you two r meant to be together you can get over your so called friend ignore him for a while and see how you and your b/f get on good luck. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-10-31 01:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to dump your boyfriend. If the trust is gone, then the basis for your relationship is gone too. Just remember not to sell yourself short. You deserve the best when it comes to being in a relationship. Your boyfriend has already shown you what he will do when your relationship gets rocky. Once a cheater. Always a cheater. I would dump him and date the friend. The least you could do is give this guy a chance. Who knows the friend could be the one for you and you could miss this opportunity because you wasted your time with a cheater. Seriously. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't make you happy. Remember this. Love a little. Live a lot. Good Luck to you. I know this is going to be a hard decision.
2006-10-31 01:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust a guy that says that he will never cheat on you again, if you really love this guy give him a try but the problem is your boyfriend . i think you should tell him that you want a break because whaen he was cheatin you felt in love with another guy. tell him the truth is better than just thinking about and being able to see what the other guy has to offer or you know what if that can be possible just CHEAT ON YOUR MAN.
2006-10-31 01:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Araliz O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly honey, it sounds like you really don't want to trust your boyfriend, and I can't say I blame you, but what you are doing is no better than what he did, even though you haven't had sex with this other guy, simply because there are emotions (one that you call love) involved. you really need to come clean and make a choice, but I think I would take the new guy, the old bf might be a good guy, but I think you are just waiting to move on, but scared to.
2006-10-31 01:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation excpet I have kids so its even worse, For you, I wouls suggest taking a break from your BF to sort out how you really feel without all the day to day ineraction with rither of these guys, go stay with your sister or a freind for a week and decide where your heart is, good luck
2006-10-31 01:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste time with a man who cheats on you? I say leave your boyfriend and date the other guy. Hopefully the lease is in your boyfriends name and you can screw him into having to pay for the rest of the year as payback for cheating in the first place.
2006-10-31 01:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for the friend .. chances are if your boyfriend cheated on you once he's probably going to do it again .. so don't cause your self misery by going though that, go for the guy who you have fun with and is sweet and leave behind your bf.. even though it may be hard its probably what would be best for you! Good Luck! <33
2006-10-31 01:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about all those problems you were having? If there are still there, I would move on to the new boyfriend. Can't see all the problems just dissapearing. I would guess you were pratically broken up when he cheated on you, he probably thought it was over at the time also.
2006-10-31 01:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't trust him at all mate, if he can do in it once, he might be able to do the same again... I mean, you can always move on and find someone better...
life is all about experiences and being able to move on with it... if you can't grow with him, then grow with someone else.... cause life is a growing process.. you shouldn't stay there with him forever if the cheating goes on etc... unless he is able to give ya the security that he won't do it... but I think it is very hard for that to happen... since he was able to do it once...
2006-10-31 01:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Vendoras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U always hv an option to choose. U hv no obligation to anybody as long as u r still not marry. Why u wanna commit unecessarily. Trust yr inner self, time is the best judge.
2006-10-31 01:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump your boyfriend, becusz if you have to worry about him cheating then hes not worth it. and obviously the other guy makes you feel good so just get with him and leave your boyfriend alone so he doesnt get in the way of you and the other guys relationship. And if your bf really loves you then he would want you to be happy even if its not with him
2006-10-31 01:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by L00KiN F0R MR. RiGHT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋