help... i have a smart daughter & she's very strong willed, i sometimes have to punish her just so she knows i mean it when i say no.
2006-10-31 01:35:12 · 9 answers · asked by sharon 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
are you being consistent? Do you say no sometimes only to turn around and give in? if so that is the problem.
2006-10-31 01:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And does she know WHY you're saying "no"? Instead of punishing her, (which most 3 year old no matter how smart don't understand) why not let her LEARN the consequences of doing as she pleases (within reason) My daughter learned the meaning of "hot" and why I told her NOT to touch a free standing wood stove by getting a bit of a burn on her finger when she touched it. No she didn't hurt herself badly, I wouldn't have allowed that, but she learned WHY I told her not to touch the stove. Three year olds do not understand WHY you tell them not to do something. Rather than "punishing" them for not being an adult, or as some parents do, hitting their children. Let her learn WHY you told her "no" in the first place.
2006-10-31 02:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to keep telling her no and that "no means no" because mom or dad says so.
Dr. James Dobson has some good books on strong-willed children..
The New Strong-Willed Child
The New Dare to Discipline
Creative Correction / Extraordinary Ideas for Everyday Discipline
2006-10-31 01:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical 3 year old. My son does the same thing. He likes to pretend to ignore me when I say no. A lot of this comes from toddlers learning independence and wanting to do things on their own to learn. They understand what you are saying but have difficulty listening to you because of their strong desire to be independent. No, doesn't make our job as parents any easier to understand this, but at least we know where it's coming from. My advice - I put my son in time out for 2-3 minutes or until he calms down and then I ask him what Mommy said no to and when he tells me I explain why in his terms ("That can hurt you" or "It's not time to play, it is time to eat")
2006-10-31 01:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is typical to have trouble with 3 yr old and the key is simple...you must be consistent in your discipline .Make the child understand the consequences and be firm .Taking the things they love away from them as punishment usually works.BE Consistant.
2006-10-31 01:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has you well trained....enough that your complaining about how you are bad to her....
Discipline yes, but punishment....that will make you feel badly...and then her for a lifetime.
Ever watch tv, The Nanny, and the Nauty Chair? It works, but you must keep taking her back to the nauty chiar, and tell her she must stay there 1 minute for each minute of her life...say no, take her there, and say "no, you cannot hit mommy, don't talk back to mommy, and so forth....give her a hug if she stays and does not cry and whine...she will at first.
2006-10-31 01:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I say no and my children do it again I give them time out each time after the first time I say no, eventually they learn, just keep it consistant.
2006-10-31 01:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jody 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine is five now... when you figure it out, let me know, okay!?!?! Not to worry, when this phase ends they just figure out how to do it without you knowing... (((giggle)))
2006-10-31 01:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either spank her to let her learn or put her in timeout.
2006-10-31 01:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋