I think it would be a great opportunity, but i have no family that i can leave her with, her dads family already wanted him to sue for full custody so leaving her with them would be out of the question. What would you do?
2006-10-31 01:21:57 · 13 answers · asked by texascomet 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
No one can advise you on this. You need to look within yourself and come to a conclusion which you feel comfortable with. Remember, if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't right.
2006-10-31 01:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex girlfriend is going through this right now, except she has a more supportive family. She re-entered the regular Army from the Reserves and had to give up custody (I think it's a minimum of 3 or 4 years) to her mom.
She's doing her MI training now, which goes from Sep to next Feb. This is the second time she's been away from her daughter for a long period of time. Last time was her 18 month deployment to Fort Riley.
I have to say, it shows. Her daughter doesn't recognize her as an authority figure as much as one would expect and without a dad she's got a second strike against her (She's 5 years old now).
Her mom says she's doing it for her daughter but I don't know. I'm not a parent but I find it interesting that men who work and can't be around the family that much are derided as "absentee dads" but when single mom's work, they're just "providing for their children"
Good luck with your choice.
2006-10-31 10:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by darling1372003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get in touch with a JAG (Judge Advocate General) on any post and find out about custody. I'm not sure but I think you can sign over custody to a responsible relative for your three months. (OBC and training I'm guessing). If you got into the military you would have to have a family care plan in case you got deployed. You would need something in the works to provide care for you child. A friend of mine has a joint custody agreement with his ex. He has custody unless he is in military training or deployed then she has it. Not a lot of courts will take a child away from a military person deployed to a war zone. And you being the mother gives you an even better shot. Get in touch with an Army or whatever branch you are interested in and ask them all the questions you need.
2006-10-31 09:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by lostokieboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single parents may NOT join the Active Duty Military. Only some Reserve and Guard will take single Parents but they must have in hand a rock solid family care plan in place at all times.
At this point, if you attempt to join, you will most likely be forced into a custody battle.
You have two choices: sign over custody to the father, or do not join.
2006-10-31 10:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great for you to do this if you had a support system. I think if you did this you would find yourself away from her more than you could imagine. If you have the ability to become an office then it means you have a college degree. Why don't you get a good steady job and then maybe join the reserves? You could become an officer and not be gone as much. Then if the opportunity opens later you could do it full time. Its a hard decision! Good Luck!
2006-10-31 11:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND ANOTHER WAY!!!! Talk with your legal office first to find out what your legal rights are regarding leaving your daughter with non-family and then use the base services to help you find an alternative. You have NO family that you can ship her to? If all else fails, send her to her dad. This is an opportunity you don't want to miss out on. My sister is career Navy and has raised a Navy brat very successfully!!!!
AND - no judge in his right mind would penalize you for doing what's best for you both! Besides, you have the JAG office behind you all the way!
Good luck & THANK YOU!!!!!!
2006-10-31 09:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by joycaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty hard.
But , you are doing something to better your
and the lil one life too. So I think you should do it.
And about the babysitting wise that can be difficult,
Like someone mentioned above talk to a social worker
Hope everything turns out okay for you
2006-10-31 09:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will not let you in, or stay in, without a family care plan. Which is basically an agreement that you will leave your kids with someone (amongst other things). If you can't do it for initial training, they will see that as you can't do it for a deployment.
2006-10-31 09:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Judge Dredd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt do it, females do not belong on the street. plus you should be a mother first. a police officer is subject to be called out all hours of the night. and they work alot of weird shifts. find another career .
2006-10-31 09:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a very tough decision. Do you have any friends you can trust? Is there anyway you can have both? I personally would go insane without my little one. One night is almost too much for me.
2006-10-31 09:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋