Ok here's the thing; my ex and I were a couple for 5 years. During those times were turbulent because we fought alot and it triggered my depression (crying spells, self mutilation, etc.) He wasn't the kind to be sympathetic towards me or anything like that. So anyway, we got into a fight over trust.
When he had officially broken up he went on a sex spree and rubbed it in my face ("she's better in bed than you, she looks better than you, etc.) I seriously contemplated killing both of them but I realized it wasn't worth it. Instead I drank heavily and cried alot.
Well, we reunited for a bit and separated because of the fighting; so I hooked up with an old friend. He found out about and told me I should go to hell because I didn't tell him. I was like why should i confess anything if we weren't together. He had broken up with me and should have kept it to myself. He said he wasn't sorry for what he did and i said i wasn't sorry either.
Now I feel like crap; why me?
2006-10-31 01:08:02 · 21 answers · asked by Dovegrl357 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as harsh as this sounds, you like to feel like this. the feeling of worthlessness and self pity. you feel as though you the world has mistreated you and theres nothing you can do. this is the only explanation for you putting up with that kind of abuse for 5 years. who knows why you liek to feel like this. maybe it was your parents? maybe you feel you dont deserve to be happy. you need to change the way you think. you do deserve to be happy. but thing is, only you can let that happen.
2006-10-31 01:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk, especially when he knew when you were depressed. He sounds anti-emotional and afraid of his own feelings.
He also had no right to call up the person you're going out with and tell them that you should go to hell. That's totally wrong. He's a coward, and he thinks he's going to get away with it when he's not.
Don't let him do that to you. You're better than that.
In addition, I had a b/f that was like that too. He was a jerk off and he cheated on me. I started to self-mutilate, but then I stopped it. I knew it was wrong and that I have the future ahead to look forward to.
Don't let this guy run your life. He's not you. You're in control. Not him.
Oh, by the way, kick him in the balls....if he has any.
2006-10-31 01:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lavina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to cut all ties with this guy. Who is he that you can't just walk away from him, toss his phone number in the trash and move on with your life. He sounds like an insensitive prick and you should be glad it's over! Forget him because he's only out to hurt you and there's nothing you can do about it except take responsibility for yourself. Don't allow him to hurt you anymore and do what it takes to keep yourself free of him.
On another note I've been through a small portion of what you're going through, the depression part. Once you've gotten this guy out of your life, if you're still feeling depressed its probably a chemical thing! You might have an imbalance that creates this depression and medication can fix it over time. You can go speak with a therapist about it or even your family physician. They can make a world of difference in your everyday life. Once you get over not feeling miserable you'll realize that you are allowed to be happy! And that is a wonderful feeling!
2006-10-31 01:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all self mutilation, heavy drinking, being in an abusive relationship and most of all the thought of killing people should be the issues u need to concentrate on. You really need to get counselling before u even consider entering any kind of relationship with anyone. He probably told u to go to hell because after hearing the story he is scared and probably doesn't want to get involved. Those things u described need to be dealt with and u need to heal before ever having any kind of "healthy" relationship. You can get through this..........but not alone, please think about getting help.
2006-10-31 01:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know exactly how you feel. I was told just yesterday by my ex g/f that she is seeing someone else and it just broke my heart all over again even though it's been over for a while. The only thing I can tell you is to remember when you wake up tomorrow that it's a brand new day filled with possibilities and you don't have to live in the past anymore.
~great big giant hugs for you~
Wish me luck as well, okay?
2006-10-31 01:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by synchronicity915 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear what you have gone through but if your ex has caused you so much pain, depression and emotion distress then why are you still keeping in contact with him? You should have been the one to tell him to go to HELL! He doesn't deserve you and you do not deserve to be treated this way by someone who verbally abuses you and obviously has no respect for you. Get this punk out of your life immediately. He is ruining you and your life. Cut all ties with him immediately. What benefit are you gaining by having this ex boyfriend in your life. What you do with your life is none of his business and he has no right to try and control you. As long as you keep letting him in and letting him get to you, he will keep using your own emotions against you and you will be the one who keeps ending up feeling bad.
2006-10-31 01:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW NO MAN ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH IS WORTH HURTING YOUR SELF FOR!!!don't do that any more .............and about this going to hell thing ............it has nothing to do with him its not like he sat there telling you all his personal life ............just get over the bastard and look for a real man that will only care about whats going on between you and him ...................just remember don't do any of that self mutilation thing i had an ex who did stuff like that over stupid arguments and that's why hes an ex now that crap is creepy and theres nothing more messt then to have to stay in a relationship because your afraid that your partner is going to hurt them self if you don't its not cool at all .............good luck and you'll find the right one
2006-10-31 01:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by mari 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you don't owe this guy any explanation. He however knows how to push your buttons, and doesn't care about hurting you, he doesn't care. You feel like crap because you ALLOWED him to put you on a guilt trip. Once again, you have nothing to feel guilty for. Don't give this guy your power. Crying spells and self mutilation are not the gifts of a loving relationship...Please take care of yourself.
2006-10-31 01:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion. It is your decision if you want to go to hell or not and it sounds like you are doing a pretty good job of taking that advice. Get up, and take charge of your life (I know, easier said that done and it may take time) Move on. Don't listen to everything you hear. Get out and try to meet new people. Try to keep busy and try to free your mind of the past. Good luck.
2006-10-31 01:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with a friend like that who needs an enemy also pityparty's do no good but bring apathy .is that what you want. Dont mutilate gods work. you sound like you had needed tried help(pro) but Id say givit another whirl this time unless you did listen dont look at him as an enemy and dont care about getting narcotics(xanax)off him . YOU SHOULD CLIK YO HEEELS YOU OUT OF THAT poe short story. jeez LOVE2U and respect you left your old friend in the dark and he probably no I think likes you himself and you didnt let him in. that was selfish let the bug in his **** go away and you'll see that 2nd (old)friend again the first jaggof never fug'm he can leap.
2006-10-31 01:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋