He acknowledges cheating before he was ready to commit. They both decided to be "just friends"? He told me he wanted me in his life and we agreed to try and work through it. That was 4 months ago. I do love him. They work together and she is friends with his roommate (whom she also works with) which means she feels free to hang out at his place. They still call each other and she definitely knows about me. He says I am the one he wants and nothing is going on with her. He says he wants a future with me and I do believe he cares about me. She still keeps up the communication as well even though she is seeing someone else. I want her gone all I picture every time I think about her is the two of them together. I actually caught them 3 months ago so the picture is pretty clear. I have no problem with him having friends even female friends just not the one he had a sexual relationship with. Am I wrong?
2006-10-31 00:53:24 · 10 answers · asked by Hopey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to have decide if he is trust worthy.
some chicks don't mind being "just friends" and still having sex....I've done that before, even if he had a girlfriend....
If he came clean with you I would believe him, but if you caught him and thats the only reason you know....then you should decided if you can trust him.
If he is mature enough and will make a commitment to you that he is only dating you and not sleeping around (not in a fight, but in a discussion about your relationship) then you should feel confident that he will not look outside of the relationship. Plus, it will eat her up if she still wants him and can't have him...that should make you feel good.
But, if you don't trust him, and you will doubt him, then give it up....because if you don't have trust you don't have anything...you will be looking for "evidence" and even if you don't know something for sure, you will have you min playing tricks on you.
Your not wrong, you should trust your instincts. If he says he will only be with you and wants your relationship, you should make it clear that he needs to avoid her, and definelty not be alone with her, but if they are together in a public setting, you can't prevent that and should be confident that your the best girl and he does want you.
Its his choice you know....if he chose you...accept your victory and don't be insecure.
2006-10-31 01:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Candace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! He should had though about this before he cheated on you. Personally I don't think you should have stayed with him in the first place. But since you did you have every right to demand that she be taken out of the picture. The way I see it, once a cheater always a cheater, and he's going to be more tempeted when the one that he cheated with in the first place is still around. Get her *** outta there, neither of them have any right to ask let alone expect that you have to see her, hear about her, or even think about her....let alone expect you to be ok with the fact that they still hang out together! If this is going to work then the two of you need to have some ground rules, I personally think this should be number one. Get her gone!
2006-10-31 08:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by you_know_you_want_me6996 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, he was with her before you got together, he still sees her now, three months ago, at work.....sounds like you are being misled. If they are always together, they are going to be together. If you want a change, you might consider making that change for yourself. Good luck to you.
2006-10-31 08:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Wendsday's child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believ that only one person can decide.
Firstly you need to tell him how you feel. Discuss it with him and see how he feels about the situation.
Then after hearing what he has to say, you need to make your decision.
2006-10-31 08:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by sink man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thre is probably more than just friendship between these two. If you want a "threesome relationship", that is up to you.
2006-10-31 08:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go, he is having a sexual relationship with her.
2006-10-31 09:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not because if shes just his friend and your his girlfriend and you actualy tell him this and he doesn't like it then you know there might be something more.
2006-10-31 08:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Aj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you stupid? DUMP HIM AND MOVE ON. you've already cought them together once what makes you think its not going to happen again? and it probably already has if you want to know the truth about it! and after you dump him you need to stomp her fuc*king a*ss!
2006-10-31 08:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too hopey m'dear. once they pop, they really can't stop. you can't change that. wake up
2006-10-31 09:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you arent wrong
2006-10-31 09:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋