My step daughters grandfather has cancer of the spine +lost the use of his legs but is mentally well. His only remaining daughter put him in a nursing home + told us not 2 worry about going 2 C him as he's so ill he only recognises her. The grandaughters have ignored this only to find he is his usual self but bedriden.
It emerges that in his will he left his money to be split between his 2 daughters, one who's manipulating him + the mother of the 3 grandaughters who died a year ago. The will stated that if either of his daughters died the money would then be passed on to the grandchildren. As one died her share was 2B divided between her 3 daughters. However, his solicitor has told the grandaughters that she has been trying to get his will changed entirely 2 her. This seems the reason she's keeping us all away. She's now sent Solicitors letter warning my partner never 2 visit as we R harrasing him! Can she do this against his will? She is truley evil 2 him +he's not happy about it
2006-10-31 00:52:09 · 16 answers · asked by mishka_aurora 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This sounds like one for the lawyers to sort out; and, you sound as equally money grubbing as you've claimed upon the character of his surviving natural daughter...
Good luck.
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2006-10-31 01:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that the will can be legally changed at this point, no matter how hard she tries. Unfortunately, cancer of the spine has a direct road to the brain and anyone could argue that he was not of sound mind at the time the the woman pushed for the will to be changed. I wouldn't obsess over this part of the situation. HOWEVER - I would be more concerned about this poor man's state of mind - how disgustingly sad and heartbreaking that his family is now so divided at his final hour. Anyone with any respect for life would be catering to his every need and want. If it means that you have to go head to head with this woman, then so be it. Someone needs to step up to the plate to champion for him! Have a discussion ASAP with the nursing home manager. I know that they have a "family consultation" time or something similiar to discuss his needs and status regularly. This issue of keeping his family from visiting should be addressed with the officials there. Also, have you contacted Hospice? They provide all kinds of services for people who are dying and their family members- equipment, social services, counseling. I kept my husband at home and brought hospice in to provide for our every need! They deliver your medication to you, provide all the equipment, etc. This is a benefit in the U.S. - where are you?
Whatever you do, do not let this woman take the lead no matter how hard she tries.
2006-10-31 01:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by joycaro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have an independant lawyer visit the man and explain to the lawyer to be prepared to make a new will while he is visiting. If the man really would like to change things that would give the man the chance. The daughter should not be aware of the visit so she is not there to influence the father.
2006-10-31 00:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact and attorney as soon as possible and see if about the possibility of a Guardian Ad Litem, which is objective professional to report on and advise the Court on that has the Grandfather's interest at heart based on his physical disability, illness and medications may be being taken advantage of by his Daughter.
If he is of sound mind, he has the right to make any decision that he wants and if he wants to see his Granddaughter's or his Daughter is try to take advantage of him being heavily medicated to alter a Will that he would not sign in his right mind, then he his rights are being compromised.
2006-10-31 01:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not money grabbing he's protecting his step daughters inheritance, its not like he's goona get it. I think he's doing the right thing
The grandfather needs a lawyer quick. He needs to make sure she cant have him declared insane (or what ever) and that she doesn't have power of attorney over him. He needs to appoint some one neutral to ensure his exact wishes are carried out . If he does not wish to see his grand daughters he can inform the nursing home and they can arrange it. She does not need to get involved
I hope that hes OK and not in pain. I wish you the best for all the family
2006-10-31 01:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you are not family you don't have a say in the matter. I know this because something similar happened to me some years ago. I worked for this elderly man, caring for him shopping, cleaning and making meals. And no family ever wanted to know, and i did everything. Not even to visit him in hospital when he became ill. When the inevitable happened, wha t did i expect to happen. Yes they where all over the place like flies around s.h.i.t. I was the one who got to hospital first. And then next of kin comes around, to get everything they can. Just writing this makes me SO ANNOYED. You can't protect him, if you are not family, Sorry
2006-10-31 01:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not happy about it, why would he change the will to suit only her? And unless she has a court order or a letter from her father stating that she has duristiction over his legal affairs, she cannot prevent you from seeing him. If he is mentally well, she cannot do anything, but if she annoys him too much, lets just hope he changes the will against the daughter hey?!
Some people....
2006-10-31 00:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Resolution 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your Grandfarther what is going on I know that knowing the truth might hurt him but he needs to know. You could even take a tape recorder with you next time you see her and try to catch her saying something like "he's not well and does not want visitors" something like that you know what I mean.
As for the solicitors she can't do anything that your Grandfarther does not want. Ask him if he has had the will changed and if he says know then you know she is up to know good.
2006-11-01 08:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by megajen2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's mentally well then he should be informed of what is going on and be showed the copies of the solicitors letters.
2006-10-31 01:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by kerrie h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in somewhat the same boat. I went to a lawer and got some things resolved. PS I live in NYS Good Luck
2006-10-31 01:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋