Okay here's the deal my boyfriend bought handcuffs. I know for a fact he tends to use them, however kinky as it sounds I am not found of the idea being cuffed and in his words, 'have my way with you.' which is fine, but the whole restaint thing makes it not so fun sounding.
What should I do. I know I'm hot, I have a great body not ashamed of nude-ness even did nude modeling once, but the whole tied by metal cuffs gets me.
Can I have some pros and cons to this? I don't think it's a trust issue either, maybe not having any control.
2006-10-31 00:41:32 · 22 answers · asked by Juleette 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are uncomfortable don't do it! He should understand. I had a guy wanna do that too, I do not trust anyone to "tie me up" Ya never know....what could happen...
I used to work in an ER some guy tied his Gf to the bed,jumped from the dresser, and knocked himself out cold,she was left there nude and yelling for help until the fire dept got there we laughed about that one!!!(poor girl)
2006-10-31 00:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not being a stranger to the whole restraint thing, I can tell you that you have to have a lot of trust in your boyfriend. You can't have any questions as to whether or not he will stop when you tell him to. That said- and this might sound goofy, but you need to come up with a code word. Sometimes during bondage games things get really intense, and if you say "stop" he may think that you are just playing into the role of the submissive. If you have a code word there will be no questions as to what you mean.
Moving on; some people are just not the submissive types. They can't get comfortable. They don't like being at the mercy of someone else, etc, etc. If you are willing to try it however I would suggest that you not start with handcuffs- especially if you've never done it before. Start with some thing that you could get out of a little easier; scarves for example. Work your way up. This will help you to become more comfortable with the idea of being restrained, as well as showing your boyfriend that you might not be overly fond of the idea, but you're willing to try.
2006-10-31 00:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by p_lo25 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Con = If you uncomfortable doing it then you should not. He is only your bf your not engaged and not married haven't hit that level of commitment with him yet! The handcuffs might just be the tip of the iceberg. He might be into S&M and the handcuffs are just the introduction. Could you on some subconcious level be fearing that possiblity?
Pro= You might find out that you enjoy the handcuffing and what to try other things too.
2006-10-31 00:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with using them, tell him. I personally don't like being handcuffed either and it is because I want to be able to control my own actions. It isn't a trust thing for me, it is that I would go crazy if I couldn't move!
2006-10-31 00:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tara S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay,
PRO- you dont have to do anything!!
You can just lie there and love it!!
It's hot!!
It's kinky
Cons_
yeah the no control thing..... ( it got me too)
but hand cuffs, are a way of experiencing new things.....
2006-10-31 00:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people like it, some don't....I would love to have a man who wanted control like that. You have to be comfortable with giving that control to someone you trust and care about.
Try it once, you can not say never to something you have not tried
You just might find it very erotic.
2006-10-31 00:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could share your feelings with him and make a compromise: Ask him if you could just have one hand cuffed until you get more comfortable with it.
You should also ask him if you can handcuff him sometimes too!!
2006-10-31 00:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like it you should do everything you can to avoid it. its just going to make you nervous the whole time, and youre not going to enjoy yourself. and maybe it might cause some trauma.
the only pro is the whole being "restrained". thats it. nothing more. if you dont like the feeling of being a prisoner, theres no reason to do it
2006-10-31 00:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u r not found of the idea then there is no buts or if. i mean he can have his way with u without handcuffs. i sure would not let him use those handcuffs on me. beside u like to have control too.
2006-10-31 00:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by sweet143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋