I've been with my girlfriend for over 7 months. We've been through a lot together and get on really well but every now and then, she pushes me away, saying she needs space and that she doesn't want me. This never usually lasts more than a couple of days and then she can't get enough of me again.
It's happened again, in a big way and she's ended things with me. Then, the next day, she wants to see me and ends up staying round my house. She still seems unsure about what she wants and despite saying she doesn't feel love for me and that there's no "spark", she then admits she does, at times, feel love for me. It's very changeable, sometimes she's 100% sure about me and loves me to bits and then, within weeks, she doesn't want me.
I'm not going to give up on her as I love her to bits and I don't want to force her to make a decision and stick to it but I feel at a bit of a loss. Other than give her space to think, what can I do?
2006-10-30 23:55:26 · 21 answers · asked by bitofacretin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She does know what she wants. Its just that she sounds like she has doubts about something either in you or even in herself.
I presume that shes the kind whos afraid of getting hurt and going thru all the emotional rides in a relationship.
Youre doing the right thing by giving her some space,
while doing so,you can prove a lot to her that youre for real.
Once she feels secure,nothings gona stop the two of you.
2006-10-31 00:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing you are holding on to something thats not there, another is you should not let her do this to you. If she loved you like she sometimes says she would not keep breaking your heart get away from her now before she really hurts you its only been 7 mths. you cant be that much in love you dont even know her that well. good luck keep the faith and dont give up there is someone that will treat you with respect out there.
2006-10-31 00:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by bj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to sit down and have a good open talk with her. You need to make her realise that her behaviour is unacceptable as you just don't know where you stand. Equally you have to find out from her why she treats you like this. Perhaps it's something that you do that makes her pretty ambivalent to you a lot of the time. Something is going on and you will only resolve this if the two of you are open and honest with one another.
2006-10-31 00:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing. Why would you want to do anything. Some people date for years before they say the love the other. Just wait it out. If it was meant to be she will come around. If not she will go her own way or you will find someone you were meant to be with.
2006-10-30 23:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Patti T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two can play at that game...if she knows how much you care about her, then it seems she's going to keep up this behavior. make her think differently by telling her you need your space and that the two of you should take it easy for a while so you can get your head together. then, she'll think maybe you're not quite so interested and realize how much she really does want you. then she'll come around.( you have to think like a girl.) best of luck to you.
2006-10-31 00:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by snicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girl might just be a moody person. But as u say dont give up on her but also let how know how this makes you feel - In her good days please- You are not making her make a forced decision but she has to know what she's doing to the one she loves (cos she does love u) it happens to most woman sometimes. That's women for you
2006-10-31 00:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. People like that are ussually dating for fun.But since she keeps comming back, that means she really likes you. The next time she pushes you away, go, and when she wants you back make her earn it...stall, pretend that you need space too. When she realises that she can loose you she will stop the pushing and pulling.
2006-10-31 00:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is unsure about what she wants, but enjoys having you on a string like a yo-yo.Love doesn't get turned on and odd like a light switch.
Since you said you aren't going to give up on her, you better get used to this treatment.
2006-10-31 00:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is full of patience and endurance's. If you love her, just play the games along with her. You might get deeply hurt though if she decide not to have you later.
2006-10-31 00:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by david l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to have to take it slow, you can't force love. It does sound like a game though.>
2006-10-31 00:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋