My gf, is kind of naturally jealous, she always been like that. But it never bothered me and in some way I kinda liked it, it made me feel safer.
She had a real problem with me going out, so I went out less. She even had a problem with me when I mentioned going on cigarette breaks with the girls at work. We even went to a bar once and when I was queuing up at the bar, a girl next to me said she had been waiting a while already and that I was going to have a long wait ahead, I made conversation, I didn't want to ignore her. When I returned with the drinks I got one evil look and my gf said stuff like, who was that, what you talking to her for etc etc.
But now, she's made a friend (some dude - I’ve met him and he's alright) at work (she only works on the weekends) and she’s out (only for a few hrs to have a drink after work) like every sat and sun.
I said to her, if was doing that, there would be a problem, but she insist she wouldn't be.
Why the change?
2006-10-30 23:32:02 · 26 answers · asked by speedball182 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is, i've spent the last two year flobbing off all the girls i knew, and i really got on with some them.
How do i play her at her own game now?
2006-10-30 23:58:31 · update #1
I guess its your turn to feel jealous? Unless she's finally realised people of the opposite sex can be just mates.
2006-10-31 00:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kizzy_ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is an essential ingredient to a happy and long lasting relationship. obviously she has trust and jealousy issues and doesn't see anything wrong in what she's doing. She also seems like a jealous control freak.
Either break up with her or make her jealous, infact so jealous that she bursts. Don't even stick around to yell (walk away) and after some time, she would begin to appreciate your manliness.
2006-10-30 23:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not fair it seems one rule for u and another for her, jealousy is never an attractive thing and although it is in our nature to experience jealously she should learn to control it and give you some freedom, the same as she can go out with this fella. I would definatley sit her down and have a talk with her if she doesnt change then i would say finish it because you can not spend the rest of your life like that. xx
2006-10-31 00:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical case of "don't do as I do, do as I tell you".
You could of course try doing exactly the same and see how she reacts... You could also think about this relationship you're in. Is this really what you want? Do you feel you can be yourself, being with her? I get the feeling the answer is 'no'.
Maybe it's time to move on... before she does.
2006-10-30 23:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Renate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple - you tell her she either plays by her own rules or that you dont want to hear her preaching on at you when you decide to go out with your girl mates etc.
Your relationship sounds quite immature so I think it might be more beneficial for ye both to sit down and talk about the insecurities and how to work them out.
Id be kinda worried that your girlfriend is spending all weekend with this guy - I think you should encourage her to spend more time working on your relationship than hanging out with her new friend - also he could have a hidden agenda as to why hes spending time with her - perhaps you should be on your guard. xx
2006-10-31 02:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably a case of now she knows what its like to have a friend of the opposite sex, either that or she is trying to make you jealous, i wouldnt bother bringing the subject up again just let her see it doesnt bother you, then you tell her you're going for a drink with the girls from work see what she says then. i reckon its just childish games to be honest.
2006-10-30 23:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to make friends easiy so it shouldn't be that hard for you to make more female friends to go for a drink with. Tell everybody at work that you feel like going for a drink after work and see who turns up. Turn it into a weekly thing then more people will turn up.
2006-10-31 00:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the women here even say dump her.
but if u not sure bout it, check this out....
i was a friend w/a girl in our circle of friends. at the time we did NOT have any sex. her dude worked late, so we would even take food to him, and then the two of us would go out and drink. we never slept together then, for different reasons. WE screwed our eyes out after she got married, i mean sex sex sex. He even caught us doing it. Trust me, u do NOT want to be that man.
can give u more details, insight if u like, just email me.
gl
2006-10-30 23:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nick A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't see herself as the cheating type, but she has a thing that all men are born cheats - sorry, this is probably not you, but many women seem to think this way.
You might like to point out to her that you like having female friends and like talking to women, but it doesn't mean you're going to do more than talk with them, the same as what she does with her new male friend.
2006-10-30 23:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no wonder you are confused. it is one rule for you and quite another for her. if you seriously want to be with her (don't know why you would) tell her that you are not happy with the present situation. if she contiinues to see this other guy then play her at her own game - either go for a drink with female friends or just pretend that you do. to be totally honest if it comes to playing games like that you are better of finishing with her cos it will mess with your head.
i think that you have put up with her nonsense long enough - you deserve better.
2006-10-30 23:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by magicalle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO CHANGE, if you did do that from what ive read it would blow the roof off the house don't see her showing you any respect maybe you need to think about where this is going doesnt look good But hey maybe im wrong good luke whatch for that respect to but to get respect you mut give think !!
2006-10-30 23:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by mcoldplay310 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋