I've been seeing a girl for a while. In the beginning we were not going to get serious and we both agreed to have an open relationship. Although I had met a girl on more than one occassion it never went any further than a kiss. She has told me that she has slept with someone on more than one occassion. When I first found out it didn't bother me. But now we are getting more serious about each other, it has become an issue for me. I have quite a bad trust issue, but that's a different story. I've tried to talk to her and investigate what happened, but she doesn't want to talk about it. I stormed off on her. To make matters worse, she is very stubborn. She has now left her phone at home for the week, because she doesn't want to be upset all week. She has been unfaithfull to boyfriends before, sometimes seeing more than one guy. Also she got an offer to be with a guy an hour after she met me, but she said she couldn't do it cause her friend said she liked him.
Can I trust her?
2006-10-30 23:04:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anthon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok guys. I'm not "investigating" what she did before she met me. Only that she slept with someone a week after meeting me. In a few weeks she is going to Canada for 5 weeks. I don't believe I can trust her. But I think I know what I need to do.
2006-10-30 23:52:23 · update #1
NO
2006-10-30 23:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by MUTANT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds lik a harsh matter maybe shes not takin it any futher because she really likes u, most girls do that, the mess around wit other ppl but not the one they really love. In ur chasse its sounds serious wit that trust issue but if she has cheated on her other boyfriends before she could be 2. Just sit her down and try and talk 2 her let her kno how u really feel and ask her does she feel the same. To have a relationshipp like that is hard and hard 2 trust but u gotta try and trust her or else things will get worst. Think about what i said and sit her down and talk before yall go any futher yalls relationship needs 2 be sorted out.
2006-10-31 07:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you trust her? She has told you about her past, and other boyfriends, honesty like that is trust worthy. But if you are investigating her for details about her sexual behavior, shame on you, for that is none of your business. Have you slept with other people in the past? Do you want to be probed for details about those past partners, when it doesn't really matter anymore? She wants you to know that other guys still find her very attractive and desirable when she told you she got an offer from another guy...she said no! She wants you to know she is still being open and honest with you, but you're gonna use that
open relationship information against her. If that is the case, stop wasting your time and hers. Move on if you are not really to have this kind of relationship with someone. I think you are the one with the real issues, and you are not ready to trust anyone right now no matter how open and honest they are with you.
If you can trust yourself , then you can trust other people, or at least give them time to prove themselves.
2006-10-31 07:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen here Buster: In the first place what she did before meeting you is none of your business. What gives you the right to insist she "tells all" to you, what happen before meeting you. Maybe she should set him aim a little higher than you, I see trouble down the line with you.
What exactly what do you mean "investigate" her, how about you. Maybe you should take a breather and let her go, look for someone more to your liking, I think you'd be doing her a favor.
2006-10-31 07:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really but then again you guys are not an item she still obviously not able to be in a trusty relationship she still wants to live her life she is not ready for what you want to give her and already you have trust issues with her this is not going to work out with you too...just keep as it is a friend with benefits
2006-10-31 07:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by melanni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the grounds that it happened when you where in a open relationship really leaves you unable to compare it to how far you went at this time but be cautious you need to decide if this girl is the one to get in to a serious relationship with if so talk to her make sure she can commit to just 1 guy or elsa you may end up with a broken heart ..... or she may shock you and be the perfect partner!!!
2006-10-31 07:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by t g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should be your decision,but if she have cheated on her other exes in the passed then you weren't be any different.She don't seem to be a one man's girl,so if you do not want to get hurt make the right choice you can do better.
2006-10-31 07:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you love her I would try and work things out. Trust comes with time.
2006-10-31 07:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!! Trust me, leave this one alone! You will only get sucked into heart break
2006-10-31 07:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by garrett w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her bout and see if u can once u talk to her u'll b able 2 telll
2006-10-31 07:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not for the sake of your heart and your mind. leave now.
2006-10-31 07:08:49 · answer #11 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋