I am very confident in every other manner, I even do a little modeling but when it comes to sex I almost completely shut down. I've had plenty of experience (not that I sleep around or anything); really good and really bad. I know what I like in bed but I'm clueless as to how to please my guy. I can get myself off being on top but can't get my partner off. I guess I don't know how to move my body; up and down or back and forth??? Do I just move my pelvic region and if so how??? How do I keep the rhythm going??? What are other ways I can be more dominating during foreplay and sex (I don't mean dominatrix; but where I can be more giving)??? Oral doesn't seem to be a problem but what is a good way to lead into it and thereafter???
2006-10-30 21:57:03 · 7 answers · asked by Xtina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only do what you feel comfortable in doing. ask him what he likes and what he doesnt, have a night when the whole thing is for him! meaning you do all the work to make him come. then you can find out what he likes and what he doesnt.
2006-10-30 22:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hmph... i think you think too much about how the sex should be. Just do it as u like as long as it makes u feel good. Move it all the way u wanna move it. and sometime ask him how he wants u to move it. by that, u know what he likes and what u likes..
And how could u be more dominating?? u could initiate the whole night, like started kissing him or be naughty and touched his thing. And oral, probably teased him sooooooooooo badly 1st before u go down cuz im sure by the time u go down, he's already crazily craving for it :)
good luck!!
2006-10-30 22:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by tiiista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are going to remain analytical, you will not get there.
You have to relax, and let the thinking stop.
In fact, try some music, and a lot of warming up, with a nice massage, some light kissing, but, no thinking, no conversation.
All that worry just blocks the really great feeling of drifting in suspension, in an ocean of clouds, while lovely feelings envelope the mind like misty dew rising.
and, s l o w down...
2006-10-30 22:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real mystery about sex.90% of it is in your head.
You being not confident enough is picked up by your bf and the insecurities just break the moment.Keep your bf interested by moaning how you are enjoying it and just show how confident you are about being on top,Don't fake it just use your body language to show your enjoyment and you will see your bf is gonna explode the next time.
This is gonna take time so practice sex in your head and you will be the best cowgirl in the city.
2006-10-30 22:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by alwyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest that you slow down and enjoy more --- whatever makes you feel good keep doing --- change what you do and see what happens
if you like something then keep asking for it
2006-10-30 22:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy yourself, if you are having a good tiem your guy will get off on watching you getting off....
just relax and dont pressure yourself babes
2006-10-30 22:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lil wine, and go for it
2006-10-30 22:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by xaangelinazx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋