how strict should we be with our children?

Answer 1

very! i feel the social problems we have nowadays with the crime and drugs have been caused by lack of discipline at home. i used to hear people say i will bring my kids up differently from how i was brought up and they did and have had a mountain of problems. my mother was strict and very disciplined, and i never got in trouble, not serious anyway, it nevr done me any harm so i am bringing my children up the same way, and i know that my childrens behaviour will be acceptable and something that i will be proud of

Answer 2

How old are your children?

Children are people who are going to be adults someday. If growing up was easy, it wouldn't take so long to do it.

Discipline is the rule and guideline for all children no matter the age. Discipline doesn't mean punishment, but there are consequences for everything one says and does.

If the children are under the age of talking and are mobile; then mostly you will be saying "no" and be loud with it. Use your hands to clap or feet to stomp the ground to emphasize your meaning. Loud noise gets their attention quickly. Reward them with smiles and kisses when they quickly turn away from the wrong, and a quick pat on the rump or smack on the back of the hand if they continue to the wrong. If the quick smack doesn't work, remove the child from the situation and place them in a chair and tell them to not to move....leave them there for no more than 3 minutes...attention span at this age is short. While they are in the chair explain in simple terms that what they did was wrong and that you still love them.

For children who can verbalize well, then you can use the 1-2-3 method easier. You are telling them that they have to the count of three to rectify the situation or suffer the consequences. Those consequences should be age appropriate as well as deed appropriate. Example: Throwing food...they have to pick up the food and then not get to finish eating that meal, snack, etc. Talking on the phone when homework or chores are not done...phone is taken away or a time limit is established with the phone company or other means, etc. Chores not done...they get a fun thing taken away from their room and an additional dished out. Fun things include mattress on the bed, curtains on the window. The duration of the punishment is left to the how fast rectification is done and how serious the crime was.

If conscequences for actions are not enforced, what makes you think they'll grow up respecting others or authority of anyone else such as their future employer or laws of the land. Rather they were punished now, instead of ending up in jail. Parents who spare the rod, spoil the child and do not love them. Using the rod does not mean "beating" the child.

Answer 3

I think that being strict with your child makes a good grown up later on, our kids are very spoiled these days in comparison with our parents, they should be disciplined and well raised, to be able to have a good Man or woman in the future, they should know their duties as much as their rights

Answer 4

Strict in the beginning, moving on to letting the string out while letting the kid know that you are still going to be strict if they make a bad decision and then letting the string out all the way and letting them make their decisions and mistakes on their own as well as letting them learn how to correct their own mistakes.

Answer 5

all you can do is go by what you were taught as a child yourself.. ie role model things. children need to know limits and boundaries and make sure they these are consistant and that both you and your partner follow the same guidelines. this way children will not stray and know that you are both showing a uniformed front

Answer 6

Children need guidelines to follow and to know what is right and wrong. My kids were raised by treating them with respect and talking to them about what is acceptable/unacceptable. Sure, I had to raise my voice but it was only to catch their attention and for them to know I was damn serious. Today they are courteous, respectable and compassionate, have never caused any problems. I am proud to be their mom.

Answer 7

you should be as strict with your child as you want your child to behave as a teenager and adult. The easier you are on them now, the worse they will be later.

Answer 8

I think you should them boundaries and love as the other person said

Answer 9

I think that it depends on how far your children will push you

Answer 10

Give them Boundaries and Love.

Especially give them your time.