2006-10-30 21:42:34 · 19 answers · asked by luck 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My responsibility towards my kids..... as long as I am alive..... Their responsibility for themselves?..... now that they have attained the age of majority they are "adults" and legally obligated to answer for their own actions.
My goal was to raise responsible citizens, that I would never has to be ashamed of. I believe I may have achieved that goal..... although they are stil in their twenties... only time will tell!
2006-10-30 21:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your question means. If you mean how long should we be financially responsible for our kids....I believe and was brought up like this. Once you graduate HS if you do not immediately go to college you need to go out and get a full time job immediately and start contributing enough to the household to be able to save money to get your own place. If you start college you should have a pt job, even if just on the weekends to give yourself pocket change (which is something I think even hs'ers should do anyway). And then once the kid get his/her 4 year degree it's time to become a full adult.
If you are talking about feeling responsible for our children and helping them out in time of need, then forever. But that help should be the help that will help them get themselves together. You give a man a fish he can eat for a day, you teach a man to fish he can eat for a lifetime.
2006-10-31 07:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the easy answer is until they are of legal age. In the USA that's 18. But I suppose if they still live at home then the parents are responsible until they are 21 or until they leave home.
But being a parent I still feel responsible for my two kids both who no longer live with me. Because what they do or don't do in life is indirectly in line with the way I raised them. So in a way I feel responsible for life.
2006-10-31 05:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of parent and person you are. If the kid broke the law or is in a bad situation because of their own bad judgment or actions you don't stop loving them but you aren't responsible to support them or bail them out. Your kids are always your kids, even when they're old. Legally you're only responsible until they are 18 but some kids never learn how to swim until you throw them out of the boat, if you get my analogy.
2006-10-31 06:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by deno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think our children should be able to be self-sufficient by about 25.
As a parent, the feelings, wants and desires never end. My son died a couple weeks ago at age 32. When I was holding him in my arms, he could have been an hour old. He was still my baby.
2006-10-31 06:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rick S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole life. You don't stop helping them just cause their grown or married unless their too dependent on you and not doing for themselves. I left home when I was 18 and went through some hard times afterward. My mother was never there for me. She never asked how we were doing financially (even though she could see that we were not doing well) or if we could pay our bills or had enough to eat. She was rich and always ate well and fed herself with expensive vitamins. She said once we moved out of the house her responsibility towards us was done. I think that's terrible and I don't understand how a mother could be so heartless. So my answer to your question is for the rest of their lives as long as they need you.
2006-10-31 05:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forever
2006-10-31 09:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until YOU stop breathing, it's your job to keep them breathing ! I have a little boy, he's 4yrs old, now I really have a hard job ahead of me, if he's 1/10th as bad as I was as a child, "I'M DEAD", It's Payback time Yeaaa ! Now I see what my parents were talking about, amazing how smart they got in just a short time. Good or Bad, like it or not, in it for a penny, IN IT IT FOR A POUND ! It's now my job to "Protect and Serve", I find myself saying things like my father did "Close the damn door it's January, I'm not heating all of New York City up, you know",..... that was scary !
2006-10-31 05:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there as a support system for the rest of their lives! Officially though, through the age of 18 when they become an "adult" in the eyes of the government.
2006-10-31 05:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by shortstuf_2 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lifetime... Your legal responsiilty dissolves when your child reaches the age of 18, but your moral obligation will and does go on for a lifetime.
2006-10-31 06:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by SissyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋