My family oppressed from marrying my bf.they don't like him cause they said it's been only 6months since i know him. he became myy bf last June 2006 and now we're planning to get married.I've lost my virginity due to him and i dont know why i love him that much even we're only 6months together.I know his single cause i've met his family already.he has stable job and 25 of age.me im 24 and also have stable job.should i fight for the sake of our happiness or listen to what my family say?
2006-10-30 21:41:31 · 10 answers · asked by ress 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
While you can note what your family is saying, the question really comes down to you.
Do you feel like you are ready to get married and does he feel the same way?
If the answer is yes then go for it and have a happy life.
Your parents are just making sure that you are not rushing into anything.
2006-10-30 21:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Engel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You family may be opposed to the marriage because you have only been together a short period of time. Why the rush? Why not wait another 6 months? another year? If you care about what your family thinks (you obviously do since you are asking what you should do instead of just getting married) show them you are serious by waiting a while longer. Your family has your best interest at heart, so waiting will give them a chance to get to know your boyfriend better and reassure them of the love you share. Besides all of this, you want your family to be at your wedding and to be happy for you.
2006-10-31 07:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married straight away get engaged fist and stay engaged for a while and see how things go do that for a few months. That'll give your family a little bit more time to get to like him and get to know him a bit more also. It well help you see if marriage is what you really want and if you could spend the rest of your life with this guy. But at the end of the day it's your life and your family should be supportive no matter what. Just explain to them how he makes you feel and I'm sure if they are aware that he makes you so happy they should be fine with it..
follow your heart girl.........
2006-10-31 05:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by sammy D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are clueless! You are blinded by the virginity virus. He may be your "first" love, but you are planning on spending 60 more years with someone you've known for 6 months. Wake up!
Try this: date for 6 more months, then set a wedding date for April 2008. Don't move in together during this next 6 months (trust me). Go ahead and move in together next April if you're still dating AND he has agreed to a wedding date. Spend a year living together up to the wedding. And if it's still green lights, may your next 60 years together be blessed.
You don't know it and you won't until you're looking back, but you are still childlike in your view of life. A few more years and some extra experience under your belt and you'll be much better prepared for marriage.
If your bf doesn't want to wait for you, then he's not the man you think he is!
2006-10-31 05:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness will come with the marriage and with the dating you might as well make everyone happy and wait a little or plan the wedding for a year or two away, why not if your going to be with him for the rest of your life why rush into it after just six months, better safe then sorry
2006-10-31 10:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by JayNell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel chook.....you are so madly in love you wanna start your lives together RIGHT NOW!!!! but six months is nothing,.....no offence, i know it feels like forever. i have been with my boyfriend six years and now i am sure and ready, but i have seen HEAPS of friends go out for 3 or 4 years and talk about marriage and then they break up over something later, and they are so thankful they didn't get married!! if that makes sense lol. 6 months isn't long enough...you can't possibly know him the way you need to to marry him, just chill out, give it time and maybe in another 6 months or more see how you guys are going and reassess then!!
2006-10-31 05:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by purple__penguin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can't hurt to wait a little longer before marrying, but at the end of the day, you and him are both old enough to make your own decisions. If you're sure he's the one - go for it.
2006-10-31 05:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Your family may be hurt that you didn't listen to them, but they will get over it.
2006-10-31 07:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your happiness will make u survive in life, listen to your heart
2006-10-31 19:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by dreamz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better opt for him
instead of choosing other innocent guy
2006-10-31 06:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by R Purushotham Rao 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋