my older sister who has been with the same guy for more than 20 yrs got married to him a few years back she didnt invite any family members and the **** hit the fan my other sister and brother no longer talk to her as they think she was wrong to do what she did i got over it in a few days but they cant forgive her there are 7 children in my family which is now divided by this act i think they should get over it what do you think ?
2006-10-30 21:08:36 · 8 answers · asked by bibidiboo1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, everyone should move on since it was her decision to not invite anyone let her be. So kiss and make up and give her their blessings.
2006-10-30 21:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well family needs to stick together, I don't know your sisters reason for not inviting you all but there has to be some sort of reason. I am assuming that no one attended the wedding not even the grooms family right??? If that is the case than your brothers and sisters need to forgive her. Maybe they had a reason, money, or they just wanted it to be them, whatever the reason your bro and sis have to be understanding. Now if your sister invited tons of people and not your bro and sis then she has issues and your family should not still be upset but they should really just not care about her, since she obviously didn't care about them during her wedding.
2006-10-31 12:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to move on. Did she invite many other people and just left out the family? Or did she just have a private wedding with no guests but her attendents? If she has been with the same guy for 20 years, I don't see any sense of a big wedding. It is a shame that your family is divided over this. You are correct in just going on as if nothing happened. Life is too short to be estranged from your family.
2006-10-31 05:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Should" is a word that causes many more problems than it solves. Especially when it is used concerning someone else. But even when we ask, "What should I do?"
"Should" implies some morally correct action as opposed to understanding profoundly your own or someone else's experience of what is real.
This whole problem began with she should have invited us. Now it has other shoulds, such as we shouldn't talk to her any more or they should forgive her.
Love reveals what Should conceals. You are loving all concerned. You didn't arrive at love by thinking you should. You are feeling the love and trying to follow it. Share the love. Love your other sister and brother without thinking about what they should do. Continue to love your sister who married without thinking about what she should have done. You might find that your love links them together. And even if it doesn't, what could you possibly do that's better than love?
2006-10-31 07:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should have been invited--at least family, but that is water under the bridge. Everyone should get together tell your sister how mad they are at her for this, then move on.
2006-10-31 09:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That its family and you shouldnt hold grudges against your family. They should have been like you and should have forgiven your sister. That was your sisters choice and they will just have to deal with it and get over it.
2006-10-31 10:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, the others are being extremely childish. Your sister did what she wanted to do and it's none of the others business. The only people they're hurting are themselves.
2006-10-31 05:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals everything...i think ur elder sister u initiate...she should apologize to the rest of the family...that way things will go normal.
2006-10-31 05:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jeeya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋