before we got involved, i already told him that i wana keep my virginity for that special nite..my wedding nite.
at first, he was ok with it n respected my decision. now, almost everytime when we are alone together, he will ask me for it. it really makes me so upset. what shud i do?
2006-10-30 20:17:50 · 24 answers · asked by cathy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been together for two years...
2006-10-30 20:24:34 · update #1
Get rid of the piece of scum. You're correct and this is the way to weed out the vast majority of useless men (I'm a man, but this is fatherly advice).
In an ideal world, the MAN should be the one who sets the standard the you have, and should not stray from it even if you test him. Fat chance that you'll find someone like that today.
2006-10-30 20:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself true to your values Cathy. I'm not suggesting that you need to become a nun to get what I am gonna say here. Do this only when you think you.. are.. ready. So many people out there don't care about you or anyone else but themselves. A person who repeatedly asks about sex wants the fun of sex but the desire they have of that sex experience doesn't guarantee you true love. If you know the nature of what true love is.. then you know just how rare it is to find because it is something that doesn't require sex to grow deep or strong. Don't let someone tell you your own personal worth is linked to how many times you have decided to "put out" in any instance because the people that wanna do that are going the azz backward way to try and find the presence of or the feeling of god in this material world.
2006-10-30 20:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is virginity that important..
If u feel its important than fine...
People make it such a big issue out of it....
I do believe the first time u do .. it should be with someone special...not just a one night stand.
I am with ur boyfriend... on this..
2006-10-30 20:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS ***!
He's not valuing what you consider important, who in the hell does he think he is to ask you for something YOU ARE NOT going to just give away. You made it PERFECTLY CLEAR, on WHEN and WHERE and to WHO you were going to give your virginity up to.
This guy is a young guy and he's going to leave you...he is. He's going to leave because he's going to get bored eventually and move on and try it out with other girls.
It's bad news and you should move on.
If you don't give it to him...what do you think he's going to do? Think about it, he's going to look for someone who will...do you think he's going to marry you and value your choice to stick out that long with you and make a lifetime commitment? No, you and I know he's not going to do that.
So what are YOU going to do now?
2006-10-30 20:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously thought that he would be able to break you down and get what he wanted. he's a jerk and you need to tell him that if he doesn't respect you desicion that he can get lost because it is not up for debate. don't give in to him because if you want to save your self that is and amazing personal choice and you should stick with it until you decide the time is right
2006-10-30 20:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you dump him for not respecting you or to give it to him sincerely. The dilemma would be that he may visit brothels to release his urge or he may someone else and dump you instead. You have to decide...
2006-10-30 20:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are saving yourself... is it for religious purposes, the fact that you don't wanna get pregnant, the fear of getting STDs, fear of a bad rep? ultimately it is YOUR choice... not his, or anyone else's. i personally do not feel that you should have to wait til marriage... but you should make sure that you are ready. don't just do it because he wants you to. and most importantly, if you decide to have sex, be sure to use protection.
2006-10-30 20:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your virginity, If you give it to him, maybe he'll break up with you and yuo'l regret it. I regret mine. I wish I waited. no guy is wirth your virginity, unless you get married then ok.
2006-10-30 20:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by jigenlo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you already told him what you thought of the whole sex thing from day one. If he cant except that show him the door and good riddens!
2006-10-30 20:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who really cares if u r a vrigin these days....Who really thinks u r so noble that u will keep yr virginity till yr wedding nite.Get real ! girl..This is the 21st century.stop acting to be so noble. WHO DAMN CARES.
2006-10-30 21:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋