I was with this girl for a few months, at first i really didnt care, we were jsut friends, but as things got more serious, i started to have feelings for her, and she did the same. But a certain behavior bothered me very much, and i even told her that it did, and she presisted to do it. It was a VERy easy problem to fix, not rocket science, but she proceeded to make this into a drama, and i really couldnt get through to her , and a few times i even started yelliing because of this tiny problem, that she just refused to fix, even though i knew she could do it, because she fixed it for a few days, n went back to old habits. anyways, we had both said we'd love each otehr no matter what, and that we coudl solve anything, and i was willing to do anyting to make this work, but she kind of threw it in my face, and basically got mad at me for being mad at her about her problem.. Nothing i could do or say would change her mind, and we had to break up. i wouldd appreciate ANY advice or comments.
2006-10-30 20:14:18 · 11 answers · asked by blahblahbaba1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem was that she wouldnt pick up her phone, most of the time when i called... at first she complained that i didnt call enough, then when i did, she wouldnt pick up, and wouldnt call back, i had to call back again.... and she always had excuses.. my friends would say they see her on the phone all the time, n she would complain of her battery always dying, but the only time i would get to talk to her was late at night , and i just felt ignored... for a few days in a row she woke me up everyday, called me in the afternoon and texted me, so i knew she could do it... but then it completely stopped, and to me, if i want to call my gf and say hi, i miss u, or just to say hi, or Anything, i should have the opportunity to do that.. she wouldnt allow me to do this..
2006-10-30 20:24:01 · update #1
when the signs are there that the other person isn't interested anymore the best thing to do is let it go, it will be hard but you will get over it , you deserve some1 who cares about you just as much as you care about them trust me the relationship works out a whole lot better that way
2006-10-30 20:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by chevy*gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention what this habit of her's was, but you have to ask yourself" was the habit she had the reason for the breakup, or was the relationship just not meant to be? It's so funny how when we get into relationships we put the other person on this pedestal and expect them to adhere to this high standard of what we think they should be. No one is perfect , We all have some annoying habit or character flaw about us and some of those are hard to just let go of or change. I use to look at my fiance and think he was the perfect guy and could do no wrong until the relationship went deeper and I honestly realized he is just as human as the rest of us and when he did little annoying things, I would mention it to him in a nice way, but accepted the fact he was who he was and sometimes old habits are hard to break. Maybe she will come back and the two of you can talk it out or maybe you just have to come to terms with the fact it may be over and just leave it alone. I wish you luck.
2006-10-30 20:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE has their lil problems, even if you get rid of her for this problem you'll meet another girl who you think is great and then all of a sudden she will have some kind of other problem that you hate. You either deal with hers or someone elses. Plus you are trying to do something you should never do in a relationship, change the other person. Dont want her for who you want her to be, want her for who she is, much easier that way lol. If you really cant stand something she does then dont even try to change her b/c then its a false sense of happiness and the relationship is all a lie in a sense, just move on and find someone else.
2006-10-30 20:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by wcbaseball4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this situation would be easier for us to evaluate & help you with if you actually told us what the problem was.
You yourself say it was an easy problem to fix, so are you sure you were not making issues over nothing - a mountain out of a molehill. Could you not just have turned a blind eye to whatever it was?
If you can't sort your stuff out over a few months, and no one seems to be prepared to even try to compromise, do you really think this would have worked anyway?
2006-10-30 20:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you have to tell us what the "tiny problem is". Because you have tried to minimize it when asking your question, this may indicate that you may be the actual problem in the first place.
2006-10-30 20:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get your inner self handled and become a man, you will understand your mistake. Really you will. It just takes time. Learn from that past and become stronger as she grows weaker.
2006-10-30 20:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by thaheartoflife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly ask ur self do u really love that girl from the bottom of ur heart,when ever u cm to know whether u love here or not u vll gt ur ans ur self
2006-10-30 20:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best to move on you offered help and she refused but the time will come when she will realise you were trying to help her and she will fix her self up and she will thank you for your persistance but you two wont be together be free to move on and find your true soal mate
2006-10-30 20:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No crying over the spilt milk. Just look ahead.
2006-10-30 20:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like it was working out much at all..you'd have to just accept her for who she is even if she has annoying habbits she cant change, not everyone can always change something for somebody
2006-10-30 20:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by digdoggy299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋