My second cousin and i have just started spending alot of time together and we have got very close we have had the odd kiss but nothing more. We both want to give a relationship a go, but are worried about how friends and family will react and if we are doing the right thing.
Is there anyone out there that is in the same situation??
2006-10-30 20:05:02 · 23 answers · asked by freddyfrog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That dawg won't hunt.
2006-10-30 20:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are laws on who you can and can't have relationships with. I think it's called the Matriomonial something Act 2002. I think if it's your second cousin you can legally, which is the first hurdle.
Then there's the thing of telling people. No matter which way you tell them it will probably come as a bit of a shock. I guess the thing is to spend a lot of time together so that your families notice that, then see how they react. If they think it's good, press the boundaries a little further, like a quick close hug in public, and so on. If they react badly seriously think about where this is going - you could cause a big family rift if things don't go well, and if you break up it could make things awkward for the rest of your life!
2006-10-30 20:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
incest
n. sexual intercourse between close blood relatives, including brothers and sisters, parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren, or aunts or uncles with nephews or nieces. It is a crime in all states, even if consensual by both parties. However, it is often co-existent with sexual abuse since usually the younger person is a victim of the predatory sexual activities of an older relative. Recently, it has drawn more attention as people began talking about the "silent crime," which is often covered up by a wife fearful of losing a husband, or the memory has been suppressed by the youthful victims. One problem is that on the surface the family may appear to be "All-American" while abusive incest continues. In 18 states incest also includes copulation or cohabitation between first cousins, but the majority of jurisdictions permit marriage between such cousins. The rationale for prohibition of first cousin marriages is not so much moral as the fear of proliferation of mental or physical weakness due to the joining of recessive family genes carrying such weaknesses.
Doesn't seem to say anything at all about 2nd cousins so u should be fine! Just the rest of the family to worry bout! But they might be ok about it!
Goodluck hun xx
2006-10-30 20:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not worry about what people on here say, i married my first cousin and the family acceppted it with out a problem, the only thing they did say was are your sure your doing the right thing and yes we were, nobody looked down there noses at us or even told us we were discusting. At the end of the day do what you feel is right not what people on here tell you to do wheather it is good or bad the choice is yours me dear.
2006-10-30 21:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In the uk its totally fine to be with your cousin and to be honest i cant see any problem with it
Go for it , if your family reacts badly explain to them that you have feelings for each other ...I once had a relationship with my cousin
didnt last long, was very hard when we split due to still seeing him at family parties .. but life goes on .. enjoy it whilst you can :o)
2006-10-30 20:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by kirsty d 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I skimmed through the first 10 or so answers - what a load of twaddle people write.
It is fine to date and even MARRY your first cousin,so no probs at all with second counsin. How your family may or may not feel is another matter of course.
I went out with my first cousin once, and even went all the way with him.
2006-10-30 20:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but no, my aunt is adopted and my cousin is my age and is very pretty but that doesnt mean i would go out with her she is still my family, sorry again but i think thats just wrong. you have to love your family a different way then what you guys are doing, atleast hide it your family might reject the both of you
2006-10-30 20:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron m420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am already one step ahead, the odd kiss lead to.......
It's a weird situation, but it's legal, so we didn't care about opinions, and, surprisingly, reactions weren't as feared
2006-10-30 21:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by uglyfatboring 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could!
In NO way does it seem like the hottie and I could be related! LOL!
I've heard of guys dropping their fiance's for their cousin (dw, it's just a 'Guy Thing'!)- oh, yeah, and also practically witnessing it!
(Hang on, it's his own, not mine!)
2006-10-30 20:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok love you are picking from the wrong bunch of fruit. Try going a outside the family and please dont tell no body here that you are thinking of dating a "cousin". Just the word cousin, should be a hint that this is family.
2006-10-30 20:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Obsidian butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Can't say i tried it myself but there was someone in our town who married their first cousin (it's quite legal apparently).
There were a few "second - looks" but nobody really bothered.
I should point out though that their children turned out to be ugly in the extreme.........
2006-10-30 20:08:14 · answer #11 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋