I get angry a lot and I don't know how to calm down?

Question

I feel like I'm angry but I can't do anything about it. I end up doing stuff to myself, like chopping my hair off, cutting or burning myself, making myself throw up, because I hate myself.

Answer 1

do kickboxing or other contact sports.. preferably kickboxing.. as you actualy do get to HIT someone.....repatedly...

Answer 2

Breathe through your nose and back out through your mouth the entire time you're angry.

Listen to slow music to take your mind off the temptation of doing something you'll regret.

Let tension in your forehead, neck and hands fade away slowly, never make a fist shape while you are doing this process, it somehow brings back temptation.

Turn the music off now, stop breathing as heavily and think about what has happened and how you can sort it out properly.

Be very steady and think twice before you do anything you just thought about, that is the actual meaning of calm, steadiness.

Squeeze a stress ball at least 50 times, if you have any, you could always use a sponge instead.

Slowly say "Oooooooooooo" starting off deep and then getting lighter and lighter even though it's very rare to do in public.

Tips:
Use this when you are jealous, angry, annoyed, or even hyper!

If it is really bad, try going to anger management.

If you feel light headed, slowly stop step 1

Answer 3

When kids are born they are usually pretty much a clean plate. Parents and outside influences can effect the way we manage our distress.....anger, pain, love, sex etc.

What you need to do is see a cousellor or psych to get at what is the root of the problem (inappropriate behaviour) and to develop more mature ways of coping. EVERYONE has anger, frustrations, sadness etc...loving oneself has little to do with it OR self esteem because we all deal with that, you arent any different taht way. We dont all go around reacting the same way as you...so perhaps your parents were control freaks and this is the only way you FEEL you can control your life...buts its not control really is it? Its lack of control...like a baby throwing a wobbly.

Read all you can about your stuff, issues etc and find out how grounded adults react...and fake being an adult until its no longer acting. And do get help....its easier when you have someone capable to get perspective. Friends and parents are often too close to cope with your issues...as they may well be the cause and get defensive.

Answer 4

You can do something about it. Anger is very destructive, it destroys your peace of mind, and your calm mind, from which happiness and stability springs from.

I used to have a really bad temper, i got angry very easily - when you get angry it's very hard to stop, it is like a blind person punching in every direction...you always hurt yourself, and sometimes you also hurt others.

Nobody likes being angry, we all deserve to be happy - but when anger arises, it can be very hard to stop. So it's important to slowly slowly, when you are calm and not angry to reflect on how destructive anger is. Why let this emotion, this thing made of nothing cause yourself so much pain...

Remind yourself of the times you've been angry, laugh at it, let it go, decide firmly, i will not follow this destructive emotion.

We all have many positive things inside of us, the potential and ability for great compassion, caring, love, empathy, generosity. We have all done good things like that, through giving, patience...when negative emotions come up, we shouldn't given in those impulses...but like a passing storm, try out best to just breathe deeply, and let it pass.

Slowly, slowly, anger will diminish - and as negative habits diminish through your efforts, build positive ones...do whatever you can do give to others, whatever you feel comfortable with.

Build patience for things that might have irritated you before...start small, and results will be assured.

All these things we feel, even when it seems unbearable, it is in the nature of emotion to pass and disapear.

I hope this helps, with best and warmest wishes.

Answer 5

I know what you mean...I went through a bit of this myself...

The best thing to do is just not get angry. I know it sounds odd, but that's the first step.
I take Vitamin B Complex now, it's a stress reliever and it really works.

Don't hurt yourself anymore! That's horrible and when you finally get out of it, you'll think it was the stupidest thing ever.
I spent two years in a constant depression, just calm down.

It also helps to find God and know that even without anyone else He can help you. You should pray about it, even if you're a non-believer, tell him you don't believe. Just pray.

Good luck and God bless! :)
I hope you get better.

Answer 6

You can manage your ANGER with the following tips:

Develop and gain the habits of being strong, confident, and self-reliant.

Involve yourself in public speaking, mingling with people, and ascertain your presence in all gatherings.

Be More Extrovert than Introvert.

Try to keep cordial relations with one and all.

Try to see men as Men, and ladies as LADIES, instead of just as SEX objects.

Try to control your smoking / drinking / drug habits, if you have any. Too Much Excess of anything will just ruin you whole.

Even breathing exercises and little yoga (from proper instructors / guides), or sincere prayer may help you.

Always SMILE, and pass on the smile on others faces.

Always think “You are the Creator of Your Own Destiny” as quoted by Swami Vivekananda

Answer 7

You need to understand why you hate yourself and work through it Honest. Every living soul has worth and you need to find yours. Talk to a counselor or some sort of professional. This will not go away on its own, and will likely get worse.

You deserve to be happy and to love yourself. If you like who you are you won't be angry all the time, and you certainly won't want to hurt yourself! Once you get past all of this, you'll be glad you did it!

Answer 8

You need to get therapy. Not being mean, it's just what you need to do. I get angry, too, and it makes me feel terrible. Therapy will help a lot if you take it seriously and give it a real long term try. Good luck. Life without anger is a much nice place to be.

Answer 9

Hold a paper or plastic bag to your mouth and slowly breathe in and out through your mouth, close your eyes and think of a happy calm place, do it for about 10 min or until you feel the anger fading away! And please don't hurt yourself, it's not worth it!! You'll only be left with ugly scars after wards! Good luck!

Answer 10

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Answer 11

put ice on ur head / take a vacation in a hill side along /go to the temple pray for god