what are Parent's duties and rights aginst maried children? Serious replies please?

Question

what do u think what should be the behavior of parents with their children and children's spouses?
Do you think parents have rights to scold upon the spouses of their children?
Do u think it is ok for parents to always tell their children what they have done for them and now they need it back?
Do u think that a father can always count that he has spent this much amount on his son and now the son has to pay back that amount?
If ones parents do all this what he/she must do and how he/she can behave with parents?

Answer 1

As parents we are not always going to like the decisions that our children make. We swear to ourselves growing up that we will never be our parents. I believe that letting our children grow and be dependent is the way to break the cycle of abuse. We give to our children and should never expect anything in return. Our love for them is unconditional and should never have a price attached. We can only go so far in helping our children grow into wonderful, respectful, loving parents. As they get older we should accept their decisions whether we like them or not. Being a parent isn't for paying a price rather than love. Everyone makes their own decision of being or not being a parent. No parent should expect repayment for the things they have done for their children. All we as parents can do is hope for the best and hope that we did everything right when raising our children. Being parents isn't about what we have done for our children but what they bring into our lives. It is about accepting that they have grown, become men or women, married, and started their own families. If you respect your children then you respect their spouses as if they were your own children. If you can not accept your child's spouse then you haven't learned to let go and let them be their own person and this is what you have raised them to be their own person.

Answer 2

Parents role in this world is not an easy task;parenthood starts from the time the mother conceive to her child, and when the child is born,until he grow up the parents' responsibility is still the same.Children learn from their parents as they grow up that's why parents should be careful on what they are showing to their children how they treat them.Building a good relationship and dicipline are the two of the main factors between the parents and the children Now,let me start answering your questions:
Son/daghter in-law (spouses of your children) should be treated as your own children.You are the parent,and you must be the first one to understand; when your child got married to her/his husband/wife they become one,now there are some cases that the spouse of your child sometimes become irresposible and neglecting his/her responsibilities.This case is a problem of your child.Let them talk and discuss their problem,interrupting them would only worsen the situation.The parents role this time is only to support,to give advice patiently.
My second answer;Parents have no right to scold the spouses of their children, or even your own child, you will just give them a chance not to give or pay you a respect.Talk to them gently,show them you are the older one and a parent to them.
Third answer;Parents have no right to relate to their children the things they have done for them.It is a mere truth that this is a forcible responsibility whether they like it or not it is an obligation for the parents to give them shelter,right education,not to expect anything in return.
Fourth answer;It is wrong for a Father to count the amount how much he spent for the living of his son,and why it needs to pay it back?raising up a child is not a business.
Lastly,it depends to the children; how was he trained and how he was raised up by his parents.Children must also know that they have also a great obligation to their parents.If the parents and the children have a good ties, everything would run smoothly with their relationship.

Answer 3

The parents job is done once the children turn 18 and are out of the house. You dont have a right to scold them or their spouses. And it is not right to ask to be repaid for raising your own children. Children are not brought into this world to be raised and then have to pay a debt for being born. Let your children live their own lives. And you live yours.

Answer 4

Once a child becomes an adult and gets married the parents obligations are done! Other than being there for their child " if their child asks for advice" If the child doesn't ask for the parents advice,then the parent should stay out of the child's business. I stay out of my children's business unless they ask for advice. When it concerns my daughters,if their spouse were to be abusive then of course I would step in to defend her, or if one of my daughter in laws were neglecting or abusive to my grandchild, I would not sit by and let that happen. When a child becomes an adult that is when the parents can discover a whole new way of life and enjoy being a couple again!

Answer 5

The only way you can scold your child's spouse is if they are living under your roof. That is the only exception. If your child owes you money such as it is a written agreement, and you know the couple is doing well, and not behind on bills then yes you can ask for payments. But if they are not doing so well.. Leave it be!

Answer 6

It appears that there is alot of selfishness alive. When parents need to consistently remind grown children about what they have done for them, then it may be time to cut the ambilical cord. Sometimes, adults need to grow up and face certain realities. But remember, always do things with respect for the parent. I am not saying swallow crap, or give in to what they want or say, but I am saying establish limits and boudaries for yourself and them. Communication is very important in any and every relationship.

Answer 7

There is no rights here involve. It is more duties that children will have towards their parents when they grow up. Some parents don't expect anything in return but some do. I guess it all depends on the parent themselves.

Answer 8

I think that when you love some one such as your children it means not keeping a running tab or expecting to get all back that you gave for eighteen years. That isn't why you had kids is it? I would hope not, if so then that is probably why you find yourself dissapointed. My hope for my children is simply they love God and me and that they grow up strong enough to make desisions that are right for them.

Answer 9

Once the child is 18 and older and IS NOT LIVING WITH YOU IN YOUR home.. You can only advise and counsel.. NOTHING MORE and as far as your son/daughter's husband/wife.. you do not have the right to scold them or even give them advice UNLESS they ask it of you... Stay out of their affairs

Answer 10

I think it is important for the parents that after some stage, especially after the marriage of the children, they have to remain aloof from the affairs of them. They have to fend for themselves. It is absolutely unbecoming of them, to poke their nose in their affairs, unless their advice is solicited.