he's a reali nice guy.cool n quiet type. totally opposite of me. im cheerful,bubbly n friendly.loves hanging out til late with friends.in short, i love the nite life.he doesn't allow me though.
maybe that was the reason i sumhow got closer to tis guy,F. F is nice,clumsy,caring n irritating in a way that can make me smile. i told myself nt to get involved wif him as at that point of time,both of us r attached.soon he broke up wif his gerl n my heart took over my mind.we became close,like a couple,except that i m stil wif my bf.i was confused but F seems to understand me.i start to ve feelings for F,but at the same time feeling so guilty towards my guy.at a point of time,F means the world to me.we shared alot of bitterswit memories together.things start to go wrong when his ex contacted him.F assured me everything is fine but i doubt it.
Nw,im with my bf n F with his ex.but i juz cant forget F.i tried but failed.juz wana feel his arms ard me again.but i cant bear to hurt my bf!! :(
2006-10-30 19:05:26 · 9 answers · asked by cathy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do feel bad for cheating on my bf. but i didnt plan to have feelings for F. if i know its gonna be this hard n painful..do u tink i ll even look at F in the first place??
2006-10-30 19:26:52 · update #1
You should make up your mind for this issue. You're the one who started all these and now you're feeling guilty for your bf. If you don't wish to hurt your bf any further, pls break up with him. You've been a selfish girl. You want the best of the of both worlds? That's too much. If you like F, just break off with your bf and see how it goes between F & you. But my guess is that F will return back to his gf and you'll all alone in the end. That serves you right for your greediness and betrayal for your unfaithfulness. Every yearns to have a gd bf, you've it but you choose someone who irritates you and makes you laugh. Coz humans are cheap. Think about it. You're not the only one hurting. Eventually, it's your bf who will be in pain.
2006-10-30 19:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural and healthy. I'm rather amazed that you two have managed to go 2 years of dating without having sex. Don't you have any physical attraction to each other at all? If not, you're better off as just best friends. If you're not holding back for religious reasons, go for it. It's not a bad thing. He's been having the urges since he was 10 or so. If they haven't lead him to cheat on you by now, after two years, they won't after you two have sex. He's not putting pressure on you, and is obviously a very faithful guy. You want to do it, he wants to do it, go for what you want. You felt the same way before your first kiss, your first date, etc. It'll bring another dimension into your relationship. People don't suggest doing it casually because it builds bonds too quickly. But after 2 years, it's a very serious relationship and you should do what makes you happier.
2016-05-22 14:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter how long u bn seein him what matters is how u feel about the guy coz u knw life is about happiness and choices,let him knw the truth he will hurt but if u keep this from him he will even hurt more,let him know,i know its kinda hard but he also has a life to live girl and he also deserves to be HAPPY.As for u and his friend i really dont knw,i think its gone to earn you some very fancy not so preety names if u realllly like the guy and willing to go thru with it TAKE YOUR BEST SHOT.but is he really worth it remember the devil u know is better an angel u dun knw.
2006-10-30 19:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by minkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the responsibility to choose the one.
You cannot have two at the same time.
You hurt them both, just like u dun wanna hurt ur bf..
and yes, u love F.
2006-10-30 19:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Aii29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur close with some other guy then you should tell your other guy the one u have been dating, whats going on cause the sooner you tell him the less pain he is gonna be in.. not that it will make a difference, if he is in love with you he is gonna be heart broken
2006-10-30 19:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by A m a n d a [[D o l l f a c e]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont love him, then tell it right away than lie to him till the following years..its better to hurt him now than hold that guilt in yourself. there's nothing you can do but end the relationship, there's no other way you cant hurt him.. the best way it to be honest.. its not your fault youre feeling that way..
2006-10-30 19:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by `red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself, if you feel that you and him are not compatiable anymore, let him know. Don't drag this any longer as it will hurt him more if you drag.
2006-10-30 19:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better to tell him how you feel as early as possible... it'll hurt him soon, why not now?! only time can heal wound... if he really love you he will think of your happiness...be fair and strong to tell him the truth...
2006-10-30 19:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please trust me.... you cannot stay with someone because you do not want to hurt them..it will not last and the longer it goes on the more it will hurt both of you... and what if you got pregnant?
2006-10-30 19:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋