Me and my ex bf broke up..he cud nt tolerate my bad temper and tantrums..HE broke up with me.. in the relationship he gt me pregnant coz I told him he DID NOT need to use protection coz i thought it was save.. when i found out i was pregnant..he wants me to abort it.. SO..is it my fault or his...?? And is he being unreasonable and irresponsible..?
2006-10-30 18:54:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are a bitc*
his only fault was being with you in the first place
2006-10-30 19:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by outbaksean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this for reals? If it is then yes, it was your fault that you two separated, with your behavior who would want to stick around with you? Why did you told him not to use protection? That was rather stupid of your side, well now it looks like you are now pregnant and alone with no bf to support you. It looks like you are not mature enough to be in a relationship, let alone be a mother. Do what you think is best for you and I hope that this teaches you a lesson to grow up. Sorry I had to tell you this way.
2006-10-31 03:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by ******* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both responsible for safe sex and any problems that go with it. (ie. STD, Infections, pregnancy) While your bf is as much responsible as you are, the decision to keep the baby is also both of yours to decide on. If he doesn't want the pregnancy, he might not be so helpful when the baby is born. If you are okay with him just paying the bills and not being a father, have the baby without his consent. If you want him to be around, have the abortion, wait for another guy to come into your life, who you can spend your life with, have children together AND BOTH take care of them. Don't make the decision alone.
2006-10-31 03:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by sagarcher26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just as much YOUR fault as it is his. Personally.... I do not believe in abortion. If there is no love there, then do not force the marriage bit as it does not work.. I do not know anything about you to know how old you are.. how your parents think, etc but if you cannot keep the child, I much prefer having the baby and adopting it out. He, however, should be responsible as you.. for the "having the baby".. Is he being unreasonable.. Yes, just as much as you are.. Is he being irresponsible? Yes, just as much as you
2006-10-31 02:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you have put youself in a rather disturbing situation. What have you learned? Use protection so as not to have to abort a potential human life. Improve yourself, none likes a bad temper. I do think from what you said it is you but it takes 2 to make a baby, he could have suggested protection. Guys can't play ignorant just because they can't get pregnant.
2006-10-31 02:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you are probably to blame, but that's not what is important here. what matters is that you have a serious decision to make, one which could affect you for the rest of your life. you need to ask yourself if you're ready for a child, if you can provide the care that a child would need, if you want to raise a child by yourself (as it would most likely come down to that if you decided to have the baby). i don't think he's being especially unreasonable or irresponsible--he is probably freaked out at the prospect of possibly becoming a father. that seriously curtails one's life. think long and hard about this. and good luck.
2006-10-31 03:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by 58jane2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a dual responsibility situation. Both partners are responsible for practicing safe sex. Blaming one or the other afterward is not the solution, it's planning ahead. Now, regardless of fault, YOU have a decision to make about what you are going to do and more importantly what have you learned from all this!
2006-10-31 03:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by barkel76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow. You sound so young....and so naive. You got alot of issues AND now you are pregnant. So sad.
Yeah, that's what you need to do right now...find someone to blame this on. Heaven knows this couldn't possibly be your fault right? Unreasonable and irresponsible? Um. Hmmmm. You've got 9 months to think about that one.
2006-10-31 03:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of your faults. One because you thought it was safe and didnt realise without protection and even with protection you can still get preg, but with it, makes the chances less. And it is his fault because he let it happen alos without knowing those things. Both of you need to learn to be responsible adults and relise you made a mistake. but is it worth killing an innocent child over?
2006-10-31 03:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by A m a n d a [[D o l l f a c e]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes to everything. You should not be having sex if you are not ready to be parent. You also should not be having sex with a person that you would not want to be the other parent to your child. You both got you pregnant. You both have a responsibility to this child. It is a child that you have started and regardless to who you want to blame, you now need to do what is best for this child.
2006-10-31 03:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by Vonnie Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are at fault. 1) You shouldn't have told him not to use protection, duh? 2) He should have still used it even though you told him not too. As for aborting, that is up to you. You can put the baby up for adoption if you don't want to keep it. It's your body, so your choice.
2006-10-31 02:58:44 · answer #11 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋