Has any one felt like killing them self’s after they thought they found their soul mate but did not work out the way you hoped. I know I have asked similar question in the past but I really feel like my life is over because I am in love with this girl who only sees me as a friend and is in love with someone else. Is this normal for a 24 year old guy like me who has been single all his life but then finds love and gets it rejected in his face.
2006-10-30 18:15:44 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's apparent that you've never felt love, for if you had then you know its worth fighting for no matter how many times you think you have it.
2006-10-30 18:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it only feels like love is cruel because you are hurt....but love is not cruel, love is the most beautiful thing in this world if you have a chance to experience real love......if things did not work out then all i can say is one of you cahnged, and people do change...we all grow at different rates, and sometimes what we were once happy with, suddenly it's not enough any more this is what makes people fall out of love...but know this, your life is not over, it is beginning a new phase now, and it's up to you whether you allow this lost love to destroy your very being, and ruin the chance of you finding new love, or you develop a backbone and grow stronger from the experience, and learn to love again...one thing i would say is...if you are being rejected then you need to change the bait...try a different approach...maybe you come across as too desperate, and this alone can scare a woman off, relax and dont take yourself so seriously, take a good look at yourself, we can only change ourselves not other people. Remember you cannot bring insecurities into a relationship, it's an absolute turn off, and remember not everyone is going to love you, and not everyone is going to dislike you, this goes for all of us, learn to love yourself, because if you dont, you wont, have a chance in hell with any one else loving you either, Good Luck.
2006-10-30 18:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not cruel...people are. Love is complicated, imperfect and there is nothing worse than unrequited love. You feel that you will never meet or ever love anyone as you do this one. I believed that to be true, but was gladly mistaken. I am not with anyone any more, but it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. If you feel that you have been kicked in the stomach and you feelings knocked out of you...you have. Hold no malice, rent the movie "Casablanca", and begin to reconstruct your life with you alone as the common denominator. I think if you were to remain friends with her would be torture. She has to know thatt such a decision on your part is not because you don't like her. On the contrary! Since I have been there more tha once in my life, I know how you must be feeling. I think you will be OK. There will some bumps in the road, but that is what life is like for romantics like us. .
2006-10-30 18:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have recently expericenced a similar situation. It is like a black cloud follows you wherever you go and the thoughts of her being with someone else just makes life so weary. But take heart...EVERYONE has gone through this. It is not our first...nor our last. I know it is difficult for you now...but trust me it will soon past. No woman is worth agonizing over especially in the realm of taking your life. I know you may have ideas of chasing or even begging her to love you, but don't do it. She will resent you more. It is a sign of weakness. Strengthen yourself...Let her go. That is a big part of being a MAN. There are so many other nice girls out there waiting for you. Trust me...I've been there and done that.
2006-10-30 18:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaii 5-0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are feeling really bad, ...and that's normal after a relationship ends.
However, at some point you are going to have to accept things as they are. No one should want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them.
You CANNOT make someone love you. DOn't try anymore.
Love seems cruel because all things in life have a Ying and a Yang. Love is a double edged sword and if it catches you on the backswing, its gonna hurt.
Don't worry, you'll find love again...probably right after you stop looking for it.
Good Luck...
and "sack-it-up!"
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2006-10-30 18:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf for more than 5 years. Until later, we found out that things will never really work out between us. Reality bites, but we have to accept changes anyway. Look at the brighter side. Maybe you're better off with someone else. I even met this guy browsing this site http://www.upkb.com/singlesnet.php for SinglesNet Dating, and I really hope he's the one.
2006-10-30 18:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Sweet Pea, Don't fixate. If you've been rejected don't let it get to you. It sux but it's really only a temporary situation. Real love isn't just one-sided. Sometimes we let ourselves get too caught up in someone else even when they don't feel the same way for us. It happens to everyone. Don't worry life is always changing and your situation will change too.
2006-10-30 18:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it happens,but your young babe...i know its hard...luckily for me i got knocked up and don't have to worry about all this love crap....lol. You will find someone who will love you back, and treat you like a true partner. Love isn't one sided, so what you have isn't love. I know you feel like you will die without this person, God knows Ive been in your shoes so many times. But i got over it, and moved on to the next stalking victim. lol. You'll be o.k. Take care of yourself, get your life on track worry about your education or career goals, the rest will fall into place. Everything happens for a reason.
2006-10-30 18:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by MTE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen Forrest Gump?? He loved Jenny. She was cruel and I hated her. Heartache and pain are a part of life and most all of us will experience something like what you're talking about. It is not the end of the world as it seems. There are other gals who will fascinate you if you keep your eyes open and pay attention. I believe if it were meant to be, it will eventually.
2006-10-30 18:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, but you just have to be a little bit more patient with life. Life is difficult, but not impossible to overcome. Love brings you to the most extreme of sensations... great pleasure, and/or great pain. So, be careful with love.
It's okay about your age. I'm late also in finding my love. I'm sure you will meet that special someone very soon.
2006-10-30 18:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Whatta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your world doesnt just revolve on her.. she isnt your life, you have your own she has her own, it so happen that she shares her part in your life.. thats something you cant stop,, falling inlove..i see youre 24 and you still have a lot of time to meet love.. dont lose hope.. hope would bring you closer to real happiness.. everyone get to experience being rejected or being fooled by love.. it is part of loving.. love always comes with pain.. your heartbreak is a learning experience for you and make you be secure about yurself.. hold on, you'll someday get it..
2006-10-30 18:26:42 · answer #11 · answered by `red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋