She says she's torn. Fine. I have given a lot to trying to make this work and she is still "unsure". She used to, but now she hides. AACK!!! When we're together, things are great, but it's become like a chore trying to get her to do anything w/ me. WTF? When things feel like they start going great, she shies away, and the better a date goes, the further she hides. I'm in love w/ a woman who 1/2 loves me, and now I'm torn! This just can't work, can it?
2006-10-30 18:01:02 · 21 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it can't. Tell her how you feel and move on.
2006-10-30 18:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she's torn between what? Torn about being in love with you? or torn between you and another person? if she's unwilling to get together with you, and it feels like a step down from practically putting a gun to her head then maybe that's your answer. it pretty much depends on how long you've been together. if you've been together a long time (let's say, close to a year or so) and all of a sudden she shies (sp?) away, then maybe you just need space. but if it's only been two weeks into your dating and she's telling you she's "not sure" then that means she's just not that into you. move on, and focus your attentions on someone who can reflect back what youre giving out.
2006-10-31 02:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by perpetual_wallflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt believe you? Maybe it's that she's making you feel great during the date cuz she's the one putting in all the effort. You should really take a look at your statement above;
"I REALLY dont care" I give a good wager that you give her that impression each time you get together. Food for thought. Good luck. Peace.
2006-10-31 02:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru the same thing with my bf. i tried and he kept pulling away now im torn. it is a chore and its not worth it. so i broke it off and now i feel better. cuz if you have to work that hard to be in love its not going to work. being with someone should feel good. it shouldnt feel like you are going to work and have to clock in. so let it go. i did.
2006-10-31 02:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no other way, but to let go. Of course, it's easier said than done. But all of us need to accept changes in our lives. Now, I'm not pushing you to forget about her and date someone else. But, it would help if you meet other people. Here's a site for SinglesNet Dating http://www.upkb.com/singlesnet.php. I hope you give yourself this chance to be happy.
2006-10-31 04:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by anastasia U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! She may probably need more time. Let her sort things out on her own. I know it would hurt, but perhaps you could meet other people instead. It could help melt away the pain. Here's a good site http://www.upkb.com/singlesnet.php for SinglesNet Dating. I hope you'll have a fun time!
2006-10-31 02:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Breaking up with her is probably the healthiest thing. It will save you a lot of hurt in the long run.
2006-10-31 02:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is confused, have emotional imbalance and dont know what she wants herself. you wouldnt like to hang around with a woman like that do you? i think everyone wants to be happy when in love and not in a whole lot of a problem. love is supposed to be mutual, easy and happy....
think about it. aint there no woman around no more who can be with you?
2006-10-31 02:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the gal had a previous abusive relationship and she's having a hard time opening up to you. give her time, and make her feel comfortable with you. it can work if you are patient. make her to slowly open up to you
2006-10-31 02:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by kidio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro she loves you, just not the way you WANT her to love you, be calm do not rush it, if you DO love her you will have patience, dont try to make her into something she's not.
2006-10-31 02:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Darksied 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she doesnt want to be in the relationship, and thats not fair to you.
My advise, break up with her. You deserve better
2006-10-31 02:04:42 · answer #11 · answered by misjes2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋