I knew him 3 years ago. He was a nice, loving man. He always concerned on what im doing. At first, i thought he's just caring about me, everyone loved Joe especially my mother! But nobody knew what Joe had done to me..Slapping, kicking and hitting were his 'daily routine' but my problem here is I loved him very much! I would do anything to make Joe happy....
2006-10-30 17:40:09 · 20 answers · asked by amarylis01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well this is a hard one. But I have to say even though you love him , like you said. You shouldn't be treated like that. No girl should. I had the same problem as you once. I stayed with my ex- boyfriend and he would beat me everyday. But I found out that I shouldn't be treated like that. You deserve to be loved and to be treated right. But it's really up to you. Maybe find someone else or talk to him and ask him , why he's doing that to you. What I did was finding someone else who would treat me right. And I did. My bf and I have been going out for 2 years and plan to get married and have kids after college. But the only advice, I can give you is that it's really up to you. Try to work it out with him or move on and find someone else. I hope everything will work out for you.
2006-10-30 17:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was with Joe then Joe would cease to exist. What the hell happend to him since 3 years ago? What exactly do you love about a man who would physically abuse you? I don't care how good he is in bed or whatever, it's not worth it. YOU ARE ALREADY doing everything to make Joe happy...............your letting him use you as a punching bag. If you have to ask this question then why can't you recognize that there is a problem. Seek some sort of help asap before you end up in the hospital or worse.
2006-10-31 01:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Italionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. You don't deserve this. He doesn't love you. You don't show people you love them by abusing them. He should hold you up on a pedestal. You should be the most precious thing in this world to him. I sincerely think you should leave him. However, if he's willing to go to counseling then there may be hope; if he's not, leave him. If he threatens you when you tell him, do not give in, do not keep it quiet. He does not hit you because he loves you. There is no excuse for abuse. And Please, don't keep this a secret, tell people, tell your mother, she only wants you to be happy, tell your friends. you should not feel alone in this. Don't let him push you into a corner. Any man that hits a woman should be in jail. Call the police, you don't deserve this.
2006-10-31 02:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by latte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt that you love him. That is, in fact, the number one reason why people stay with an abusive partner.
But, some people love drugs, dear. Say....cocaine........and would you want them to continue using this drug only because they love it? I don't think you would because you realize it HURTS them and thier bodies........and diminishes their future.
A FUTURE is all we have, dear. We try hard to DEAL with our pasts, MANAGE our presents..but we HOPE for our futures. Luv, give yourself the gift of a future.
Your guy sadly needs help and you need to understnad for yourself why you can love a man who hurts you. I hear that he is a great guy........and because i myself WAS in an abusive realtionsihp (when I was 17-21).......I know it truly does feel like love.
But LOVE is so much more than what that man has given you. He would be all the nice things you type in your question AND ALSO NEVER slap, kick, hit you. Can you imagine that? Love AND the lack of abuse????
My sweet friend, you start your questione with "help me!". Please read those two words over and over and over again.........you want HELP because you are hurting. Physically. You KNOW there is soemthing WRONG.
If you lived near me I would invite you over for the night and for the week while you filed charges against him. That is what my best friend did for me.
I did not leave my guy until he put me in the hospital at 21 yrs old. I remember blood dripping down my head and covering my entire body as I craweld on all fours to the phone........I called my best freind and not the ambulance because I was embarrased (can you imagine!!!). Of course the first place she took me was the emergency room and I haven't seen him since bcuz he got arrested and idicted for aggravated assault.
Don't let it get that far.......it only escalates dear freind. Which state are you in???
2006-10-31 01:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by miss_princess_goddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if i were you i would get outta the relationship! I have been in 2 violent relationships that's ended really really bad. I loved the 2 of them but no woman deserves to be beaten. Just think it may be hitting and kicking but thing could lead to more serious injuries, like broken bones! But it's not about making Jope happy what about YOU and your feelings, but u can't walk on eggshells all the time either thats not a way of life.
2006-10-31 01:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by colinsbird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you and Joe have a problem. He abuses you and you let him. Stop this madness, remove yourself from this abusive situation before it gets worst. Unless you love getting slapped ,kicked and hit on a daily basis.
2006-10-31 01:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Don B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. First you tell your mother or something. You have to leave joe, it will only get worse and he WONT change. He can say he will over and over but he wont. Leave him. If you need to go to the womens center, theyll help you. Love isnt being hit by a guy hun. And i know you cant control who you love but this is a bad sort of love you need to let him go because HE DOESNT LOVE you not one bit and if he did he would never touch you. Leave him, before it gets any worse.
2006-10-31 01:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Deziix33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound like a cliche' but it will get worse. Consider too that if you continue allowing yourself to be in this and you have or intend to have kids they will be abused also. But the real question is what is acceptable to you, if you think its ok then there isn't a problem ..but If you don't then you have some choices to make. I say if he loved you he wouldn't hurt you..Tell him it must stop..make choices to keep yourself safe..
2006-10-31 01:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by cami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you are a fool in Love...how could you Love someone that slaps, kicks, and hits you daily, you need help, cause you must have very low self-esteem...leave him before he needs up killing you...
2006-10-31 01:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he needs to get help and see a therapist. If he doesn't make some moves to improve himself then you should get out. What i fyou have kids, do you want them to go through that? Do you want to go through that? There are other men out there, you can find someone else. If you don't think he will ever change then move on.
2006-10-31 01:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋