Basically my fiance and I have a 6 month old baby girl and we moved in with my mom, because she offered. We all had orginally agreed that my fiance and I would help with the utilites and that would be it. Then my Dad, came in to the picture. Short version, My mom is on disability and will be for a long time, she cant work because of tumor on her spine and she already has had 3 other tumors removed from her head. So she gets her disabilty checks every month. My dad, got laid off from united airlines and even though he's getting money from like his pension or whatver he uses that money on his place in San Franscisco.Instead of the mortgage here. (we moved 'cause it was a cheaper mortgage) Mom cant work and dad choses not to.. so the only person with an actaul income is my fiance. My dad now is saying that we should not only pay rent but all the utiltities. We want to help my mom, but we dont want to have to take care of my dad. Is it fair? $500 for rent and another $120 in utilites.
2006-10-30 17:36:35 · 11 answers · asked by angelbabydia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do want to help, but not if it means my dad is gonna take advantage of the fact that joe (fiance) makes really good money and just make him pay everything. rent and half the utilties is totally cool with is. I just wonder if its fair that basically joe and i pay rent utilites and he also takes care of odd jobs around the house. he remodeled the bathrooms installed 4 cieling fans and the list goes on. Doing this to help out ya know? oh i do work part time, for the person who asked.
2006-10-30 18:01:39 · update #1
How about you and you husband get a place and move your mother in with you and let your dad stay where he is and pay for everything himself. You are clearly being taken advantage of and your father is very selfish and isn't helping your mother by putting financial demands on you. I'd send him back to San Fran and if your Moms wanted to see him have him visit, NOT STAY.
2006-10-30 18:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, as long as it is Mom and Dad's house, it is their rules. And to be honest, in some places $500 a month with utilities $120 is not bad. You can't expect your parents to keep supporting you for just the price of utilities when you have a 6 month old baby and a Fiance to boot. You have to do more laundry because there are more people living there. So it is going to cost your parents more, for another 3 mouths to feed. I wouldn't judge your parents to harshly they at least want to help you. So it isn't unfair what their asking of you and your Fiance.
2006-10-30 17:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rules seem pretty fair. If you don't like them however, just find a place of your own. But that will probably cost you more than what you are already paying at your parents house. Remember, anytime adult children move in with parents, there is always a trade off.
2006-10-30 19:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you moved in with your mom.? Were your parents divorced.? You said that your dad come into the picture. Does that mean he is living with all of you also.? Is your mom ok with him just paying his own mortage in San Fran.?
You said your dad choses not to work but before that you said he was laid off. I dont think that is a chose.
Is it such a bad thing that you are paying living with your mother.? Your mother is on disability and probably does not get enough with her check so you being there probably is helping her out a lot.
Think of it this way. Your parents took care of you for a long time. Maybe you can return the jester. If it gets that bad. You seem to make enough money to live on your own. Maybe you cuold move.
2006-10-30 18:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not fair .Sorry but your dad is a scumbag he wants to take no responsibility but I bet he smokes and drinks .I am disabled permenant and live by myself and pay my own way .I can see you have 2 reasons why you want to stay there but in reality I would look at moving out .
2006-10-30 17:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair? Who cares! Is it a good deal? If it is then stay and be happy. If it is not then just move. It requires no family drama.
WK
2006-10-30 17:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by olin1963 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay separately with your mom in another place far from your dad's place. I think it will save your money and hazards. Otherwise you will be fallen in frustrations.
2006-10-30 17:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bhuture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom needs to tell dad get off his lazy can and pay half the bills or get the L out . he's using her and excpecting you and your hubby to support him . that is unfair to you and hubby. to pay daddys way . if they are not maried . mom has say so over her property .
2006-10-30 17:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by single-rose@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LETS just say, my apartment is 550 a month includes EVERYTHING except internet and cable..
you could have an apartment of your own for that price
2006-10-30 17:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Deziix33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not too much of a burden for you, try to do it for a while longer but let your Dad know that you are looking for a change because it is so expensive.....
2006-10-30 17:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋