I just want her to decide. I know how I feel about her, and at least part of her shares the feelings, but being dragged along in limbo is worse than her saying, no I'm not what she's looking for. I am thinking about just telling her, fine, let's date other people, but no sleeping with them. We have dated for @ 6 mos. and I gave her everything I could and am confident (at least for now) she's not going to find someone more fantastic for her. If she is just scared about maybe having found the real thing with me, will this have the desired effect or just scare her completely off? It feels like an ultimatum w/out the clear "now or never" clause.
2006-10-30 17:35:20 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If youre going to give her an ultimatum then you have to be prepared for her to leave. If you think that you can handle it then go for it. If you think that you want to give it some more time to see how it unfolds then do that. But dont ask questions that you dont want to know the answer to.
2006-10-30 17:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Adrianna Christens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it might seem like it has been long enough, but as 6 months, the newness of a relationship is wearing off and in most relationships this is the point where you really start getting to know what the other person is really like. If you want to keep her in your life I would not recommend an ultimatum or saying lets see other people, but not sleep with them...once you say either you negate any right for her to asking anything from her if she decides that she is not ready; when placed in that situation many people rebound to the next piece of trash that shows any attention to them and transfers the feelings that you have worked so hard to earn on to the substitute.
Best thing would be to be patient, give her space and time to come to the conclusion on her own that she wants to be with you, if you can handle it. If you can't then best to move on now.
2006-10-31 01:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just need to let her go. Depending upon her age, some girls have to find out the hard way that they let the best thing that ever happened to them go. There's a girl out there who will appreciate you for everything you are and everything you have to offer. You're never going to find her if you keep pining away for the one who doesn't see it.
2006-10-31 01:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by cndygrl707 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ultimatums can back fire ... but you have to decide for yourself how far you are willing to go and how long you are willing to wait... while waiting on her you could be missing the real Mrs. Right........ God bless
2006-10-31 01:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pretty dumb,,
2006-10-31 01:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋