Why do I feel this way? What should I do? I am not sure of what I feel.?

Question

In June, I ran into my ex bf who I had known since I was 13 before we had a major fight when I was 18. I ran off. Months later I married this guy. He was good at first. After I had our first child, he became violent and started to show his true colors. Now it's been 5 years, almost. We have two children. My ex had not given me his addy or number. So, I did my own little detective work and found him. We hooked up and started chatting on my cell phone. Eventually, one thing led to another and I was feeling happier than ever because somebody actually wanted me and didn't insult or harm me constantly. I mean, my husband has broken my ankle, but he won't let me go with our daughter. My ex has told me that "No matter who you marry, you'll always belong to me" and that he was looking for me for all these years. I'm not going to lie, I thought about him everyday too. Should I leave my husband, when our marriage is basically just a piece of paper saying we share the same last name

This isn't lust. back then we were all over each other. This time it was just sitting down and talking. About how life has gone. Believe me, we both wanted to, but I know what I am feeling. This isn't lust. If this was lust, it would come and go. I've been in love with this man for years.

Answer 1

"No matter what, you'll always belong to me" sounds a little scary in and of itself. And yes, you should leave your husband, but not because you ran into your ex. You should leave him because he abuses you, and dis-honers that "piece of paper" every time he does so. And as for your children, you cannot imagine the harm that will come to them if you stay with him, (or maybe you can). Next time he hurts you, press charges, collect your evidence, and leave him. He WILL NOT be able to keep your child if you prove that he's abusive. As for your ex, he's not the point, right now. Your safety and that of your children is.

Answer 2

If he is abusing you in any way , mental or physical or your children, by all means get away! There is help out there for domestic violence
Call the abuse hot line. You can go to a place where he can not find you with their help.
Don't let it be for this other man, that maybe a bad decision.
You need to do it for yourself and your children
If things work out, with the other guy in the future you will know you did the right thing.
You need some time alone to know what you want first.
Don't leave your husband thinking things will be greener on the other side of the fence.
He may not be there for you in the way you want him to be dicuss your children with him, time will tell
Maybe you could get some counseling first and just see'
Hope the best for you'
My heart goes out to you.
You will be in my prayers,

Answer 3

you can also believe the way in which you do seeing that you may have set yourself as much as be by myself. Now that you're by myself you're feeling not sure approximately yourself. God didn't make us to be by myself. We want persons and each and every different. If you consider God is the all robust individual he claims to be then you definitely must understand God can do some thing besides fail. Let God have your issues and don't take them up once more and convey them with you. Just preserve asking god for steerage and stay up for his reply for your issues. If god needs you to conclude institution then matters will figure out and god will open doorways for you. If no longer then you'll run into all sort of issues so that you can hinder you from occurring. Ask God what he needs you to do

Answer 4

You stayed with a guy who hurt you bad enough to break your ankle? Are you kidding me? You should be gone already,every day that you are still under the same roof as this guy is another day of playing a fool. Let him go to work,get out and give him a call to let him know where to pick up the divorce papers.

Answer 5

hope you can untangle this.
Love more than wanting love.

My aunt was thrown down a stair well. When will it end? She survived, but she's no angel either. Take a good look at yourself. Try not to romanticize your ex or make him the "hero". If you have bad problems, do your best to be your best so that you are worthy of that man's love. Embrace the noble heart, do not take the easy way out. If what you desire is attainable, you will obtain it. The path will be made clear, if this is indeed the path you must travel.

Answer 6

you do know the answer already God does not want you to be beat on if God is not in your marriage he did not put it together Divorce is never a good thing but sometimes it saves life's it would have been best if you would have not married but dont start a relationship with another man while you are still with the one you are married to this will only cause more harm you know the answer but on you can do what is best for you

Answer 7

If the second person is really interested in you, why doesn't he ask your hand for marriage. I think you should talk to him about this before thinking about your feelings. You should find out his intention, then ask for a divorce from your husband with whom you have tried all your best. But always think about your children's future before you take a decision.
I advise you to pray salatul "Istikhara" before deciding.

Answer 8

Take the ex out of the equation and look again. You are in an abusive relationship so why stay?

GET OUT NOW.

Answer 9

go talk to your preacher or a preacher cuz this is not just the easy thing people seem to think. After a divorce especially with kids there are hardships too. You might be able to patch things up with some help. Watch one day you will wish you did not do that detaective work. You heard it here first.

Answer 10

Hey! You are an American citizen - enlist the help of family and friends, get the abaya you seek and DON"T become a victim!