Hi,
I have just come to the realization that I am a compulsive liar. I can't stop myself. I can't seem to find any help online (tactics or information). It is destroying my life - my wife has seperated from me for it. And on the eve of reconcilation, I blatenly did it again.
WHY?
Any suggestions, links, or ideas would be appreciated.
2006-10-30 17:05:38 · 11 answers · asked by Wayne W 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you are scared to tell the truth, or you don't even know what the truth is in some cases. If your wife knows that you are compulsive liar, it is actually easier. Once you lied, you should tell her, "I just lied. As you know, I want to change it. Here is the truth..." Just see for yourself several times that nothing terrible happens if you tell the truth when you already lied or was about to lie. If she is a smart woman and if she's capable of looking beyond the old times when you hurt her by lying she won't "punish" you by tears or yelling or reproaching. But please understand that she might be very hurt still. Just take the tears and yelling. This is the worst that can happen.
I had a compulsive behavior (different from lying though) in the past. What changed it is noticing that nothing bad happens if I didn't follow my old routines. I had help from a therapist and trust me it really works. Yeah. Trust. Maybe that's the key? Do you trust anyone?
2006-10-30 17:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about everything you say before you say it. Ask yourself is this true before letting it come out of your mouth.. then if something does slip for example.
Your wife asks you "where are you?" and you answer her "I am at home" even though you are technically on the street headed towards home.. this is the point where you say "Wait, actually I am almost home. I lied but I will be there in like 2.3 minutes or whatever. If you are physically correcting yourself, you will start to automatically do it and others will see that you are trying to correct your problem.
Get some counseling. I hope this helps you.
2006-10-30 17:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by blondeokie73 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly not alone. My sister had the same problem, not to the extent that you are but enough for her to realize it was destructive behavior. The first thing to do is notice it as soon as you do it. You will have to constantly monitor yourself. And when you do lie...no matter how big or small...Admit it out loud. That's what my sister did and she is getting much better about it.
http://www.healthdiaries.com/compulsive-lying.htm
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=153
http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/hypnotherapy/compulsive-lying.html?1596
Here a few different links..hope it helps!
2006-10-30 17:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing you have a problem is the first step of fixing it.
some advice I learnd form a book i love.
If you keep your moth shut, people will thing you are wise.
A follish man who allways talks will bring himself to ruin
No one can fully tame the toung.
Be quick to listen and slow to speak
Dont Lie.
Another thing I learnd CHANGE ISNT CHANGE UNTIL ITS CHANGE.
you can talk about changing, but its nothing unless you do, not try, do.
Do speak slower, do think about your words, do focus more on the truth then your own agenda.
DONT BE SELFISH. ALOT OF YOUR LIES ARE FOR SELFISH REASONS, im positave of that 100% (I said alot not all now)
Ask forgiveness and seek counsling from a pastor at a church or a christian pshycologest, unsaved ones will pump you full of meds that are crap for you and do nothing to heal whats really hapining.
2006-10-30 18:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by robertt223 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,this may sound stupid, but everytime you lie you should hide away something you like and dont give it back until you tell a truth.and when i mean "hide away" give it to someone and dont come back for it until you've told a truth.or, you can also hide that item away somewhere where you wont remember it and write where you hid it on a piece of paper and dont open it until you tell a truth.and everytime you tell a truth, get that item back and buy a new item to go along with it.
2006-10-30 17:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this women lies to her husband or ex...whatever he is 24 7...every single world that comes out of her mouth is a bold faced lie....you know what....i dont have to deal with it that is the important thing.
these women lie toe their mates like its going out of style and the mates take they say they do not but they do. ...lots of guys dumps these women as many men should
2014-10-10 22:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by caroline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by alire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth
2006-10-30 17:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by mrbait33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a compulsive liar who is to believe you now!!!
2006-10-30 17:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanie H 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no compulsion can be defeated wihtout professional help, psychologist or psychiatrist.
2006-10-30 17:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋