he is being really rude and we always are together and never really argue. Lately he hasn't really talked to me about anything really i feel lonely. And we are making love he is done in 5 min. i felt like it was me like something is wrong like he is not atracked to me but he sayid that it is not me that i am pretty and good it is just him. help what do you think i need some advice please. Thanks
2006-10-30 16:50:15 · 8 answers · asked by lovebug1234 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, but it sounds like he's trying to move on. At least you can console yourself that he's trying to do it without hurting you, by trying to take the blame on himself. Sometimes, even without fights, relationships kind of "fizzle out" and end. If you're prepared for that, then let him go and move on. If not, confront him directly, ask him, "Do you still want to be with me or not?" Perhaps the question will shock him into action. Either way, I wish you lots of luck!
Best Regards,
Holly
2006-10-30 17:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on with him. Whether it is someone else, not sure of his feelings anymore, or a whole other part of his life that he isn't telling you about. You will drive yourself crazy, worry what is wrong with you or what you are not doing right if he doesn't open up and talk with you. In the end, it usually isn't anything you have done or could have prevented
I was in a long distance relationship with an old beau so we both knew each other from years ago and had built a great friendship and trust before it grew into so much more. He started pulling away, not talking, less interested in making love, etc. I got a short 'it is work'. It was crazy at the time for him and the project did require 12-14 hr days. Always some reason why I could not come to visit and why he couldn't that for two years I didn't see him. We did talk once in a while on the phone but very general. I happened to be back in the state for a family fuction and he asked to see me. It took two years for him to tell me he wasn't comfortable with the long distance relationship and it really wasn't working for him. Fine time to tell me! This is a man (we are in our late 40's) who kept saying that he had never stopped loving me since we dated when we were in our early 20's. I never saw it coming but early on "the only way he could deal with me was totally open and honest". Yea right.
Don't blame yourself. If it doesn't change soon, make him talk about this or start separating yourself from the negative aspects and get together with friends.
2006-10-31 01:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt like it was me like something is wrong like he is not atracked to me
these are self esteems issues .. in other words .. your issues and doesn't have anything to do with what's going on with him .. being rude .. not really talking .. change in sexual habits .. sounds like stress .. what's going on with him -- outside of you and him?
The little phrase - it's not always about you (not being rude here) .. when your mind wants to 'jump' to 'what have I done' .. remember - it's nothing to do with you .. don't allow yourself to drag your baggage into the mix .. Tell him you can tell something is stressing him and you would like for him to trust you enough to talk to you about it.
2006-10-31 01:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by hia_svnoyi_woya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like this relationship is over and your boyfriens just doesn't have the guts to tell you.
dont sit back and let him be rude to you get rid of him and find someone who will love you properly and give you the intermacy that you need.
2006-10-31 04:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is losing interest in you...
Is he chasing someone else ?
2006-10-31 01:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirt a lot, you don't actually have to cheat, but just show him that you can do better and he'll start trying harder.
2006-10-31 00:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by stezus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he must be cheating so he is distancing his self from you out of guilt of what he is doing to you
2006-10-31 00:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
two years is long period dear
just find out what is his prob.
2006-10-31 01:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋