My ex and I were together for 4 yrs. We were building our dream house and staying with my parents until the house was finished. I was going to propose to her on a secret holiday i booked for us at xmas, and i just bought her a new Audi that she wanted. I love her so much and would do anything for her. A couple of days ago she packed her things and left because my dad put our dog on a lead while he was cleaning outside. She went off her head and took the dog and she just started saying that she hates me and doesn't love me anymore. But that morning everything was fine - we were joking around laughing etc, and just out of the blue she does this.
What should i do??
Do i fight for her or let her go??
Maybe she has other issues??
Please i need all the advise i can get.
2006-10-30 16:48:03 · 21 answers · asked by Justaguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of Darling, you said both of you were staying with your folks,right? Do you think someone said something to her, to make her feel like she is not loved? Please, if you really love this woman, and you have been with her for fours years, you need to fight for her! It just seems, weird you and her have been fine, until you both moved in with your parents.Do you think your parents,said or did something to her? Trust me, I speak from actual experience.My parents allowed my boyfriend and I to live together, in there home, but they always caused a lot of friction between both of us.Basically in the end, we had to just be together, him and I! Go after the woman you love! Even if your parents, do not agree.Good luck, I hope everything works out!
2006-10-30 16:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by Marna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be other issues. Either she was thinking about leaving for a long time and didn't know how to so she just snapped over the dog thing or maybe she's just dealing with something that she can't talk to you about. You need to sit down to talk with her face to face to figure out exactly whats going on. You deserve an answer especially if you were together for 4 yrs. If she has found someone else and was wanting out of this relationship then definately move on. Take time to heal first because you dont need to hurt the next person that could walk into your life, but after you've had time to heal find someone else. There's millions of girls waiting for the right guy and as long as you dont let your fear overcome you, you'll have someone who will love you more than you could ever imagine and she will be a distant memory. But definately figure out what happened first!
2006-10-31 03:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA... Stop And Look Around
OK first off you should do somehting about this issue. No one just wakes up one morning and decides to marry there best friend out of no where . there has to BE A REASON. Same for you , would you just get up one morning and just leave the house if there wasnt a reason to really do so? that could even be for Work , or play. YOu get up and leave your house to go to work. THats A reason for doing something. SO what she did had to have a reason. NExt The question is , Do you fight for her? well heres the question . IS all that you went through Worth losing her ??? all the good times and bad, fun times and Great times. Im not going to say yes or no, but what ever your answer is, that would be your key anwser. Find out whats wrong with her, and why she did what she did. Maybe there is something there that she is not tell you , or maybe something you have been or did Do that got her that way.
Find out my friend , i hope this helps you and your issue.
2006-10-30 17:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by GhostHunter4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How unbelievably odd...either she's crazy, or there's something much deeper going on that she's been bottling up for a while.
I just got broken up with out of the blue too, so I feel where you're coming from. We were together for almost a year, talking marriage etc. Here's what I did:
I avoided contact at first, mainly because I was just so hurt and shocked I went into total preservation mode. During this time I read as much as I could about relationships and talked to as many friends and family as I could to get some kind of clarity and understanding. After about two weeks, the real issue and his real reasons for calling it quits completely hit me. I used this knowledge to write him a letter. He confirmed that I was dead on.
Unfortunately for me, the break-up is still on, but at least now I know. Now all I'm doing is trying my best to pick up the pieces, restore my confidence and move on. Its hard. But if you take some time and space for yourself to try and get clarity, you can approach her in a thoughtful way and get some answers. It might turn out different for you.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 16:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has someone else and just needed a reason to leave. You sound like a nice guy. Call and talk to her. Just give her sometime maybe she will come around. If not, don't beat yourself up about. I know love hurts, maybe it's a sign that you need to get rid of her stank A.S.S. Things will work out. there is some one out there for you. If you love her i would fight for her. go after her, its worth a shot. But don't expect too much when you do, because you don't know why she left. Just be easy about. good luck man.
2006-10-30 16:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Beyonce2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath, count to 10 and exhale..... give her space and time... that is about all you can do... the dog is NOT the issue here.. I do not know what is, but there is something else going on... maybe you need to talk to dad ?? sounds to me as if there MIGHT be an issue with him... something just tells me there is more to this story than these written words are telling... maybe you dont even know ??? talk to the girl one time, ask her to be open and honest, and then tell her you will give her the space and will wait, IF that is what you feel you need to do... also let her know, that what ever she says, it is ok, and a that you love her enough to HEAR her....... God bless
2006-10-30 16:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice one. You bought her a new Audi? Building a dream house? Staying with your parents while the house was being built? She hates you now and leaves with the dog because of your stupid dad? Has she filed a palimony lawsuit yet? No? Because you are dead broke and desperate and suicidal because this floozy ain't gonna give you some no more? Maybe SHE has other issues?
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha......
2006-10-30 16:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a good time together, maybe something else is wrong with her. Or maybe she's been waiting for such a long time for you to propose to her that she thinks you're never going to. Plus living with your parents might be stressing her more than you know. Go after, talk to her, tell her that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life and will she please come back? Fight for her but if she doesn't want to be with you...then let her go.
2006-10-30 16:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UM yeah.
First, get title back on the Audi.
Second, ask her if she is manic-depressive or something...or maybe just psycho. Not to make light of her actions, but that is really messed up!
Maybe she just needs a break...living with almost-in-laws while building a house can be really stressful. Maybe she just needs a little break, but I would suggest some kind of counseling/mediation to work out the finer details of ending your relationship.
2006-10-30 16:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were feeding all her material needs for fours years. She wasnt really wanting the cozy house, sounds like she just liked spending money. Ugghhh. She sounds like a real masterpiece. NOT. Hold off on that wedding until you realize she has everything she needs material wize and start talking to her about budgeting for life! Oh my...this just has a real bad feeling to it. Umm, I'd get some pre-marital counseling...doubt she'd go for it...just cruise around in her new wheels. Sorry!! Gosh I wish you luck dear. Peace.
2006-10-30 16:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋