me & my bf broke up bout a week ago & today we were hanging out & me & his friends have been hanging out heaps & me & my ex talked & when i was at the canteen he was staring at me he only did that with me when we were going out & when they were all in the music room he pulled his hand out 4 me & then he was like stroking my arm & then tryed 2 feel my boobs .. later on in the day his friends mugged me & took my keys & me & my ex were talking he was helping me try find them & when i found the clues he was always behind me & he was looking at my *** & was smiling & most the time he was hugging me liek a bear hug & i dont no if he is just bening nice & friendly or he wants 2 be more then friends
2006-10-30 16:30:21 · 9 answers · asked by Sexcaii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i go out with him again
or should i test hhim
2006-10-30 16:51:05 · update #1
How in the world do u land up in a situation like this ?
The anwer lies in the question of why you broke up ? Did you refuse to surrender to him, refused his advances or refused to have S e x ? If true then in my opinion what ever happened in the canteen seemed to be a setup (it seems very obvious, but I may be wrong in my judgement) .
What do u expect ?
What YOU really want. I'll take a wild guess here and bet that the kind of guy that you truly want isn't the kind of guy who would act how this guy is acting. Sorry for asking but..What the hell are you doing!? You're wasting your energy trying to get the love and approval of someone who is already trying to eye you as if you are some kind of trophy to be won, you understand what I mean ?
If I were you I would not even want to be with him!?
Ok, now You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom", men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom". A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued or the way you are thinking presently!! This may be the likely reson he came back. There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge.
Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.
Men deal with this in one of two ways:
1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term.
2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way.
Here's the AMAZING part... A woman helps him choose which it will be with her. Interesting...The point is, men LOVE the chase.
Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.
But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens !! The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man.
My Advice: Back Off and leave him and wait for that perfect guy who will eventually come along and love u. However you are the best judge, but still ??? be cautious and careful !!
Good Luck>r
2006-10-30 17:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I favored a man like loopy then he harm me through dishonest on me. i see him, his simile, his odor, the matters approximately him convey again recollections. But i dont desire to get harm once more. I could no longer return to a man that's sarcastic to mention i quite dont recognise what love is and *grins* i think the sam means u do u desire to return to him. however ur no longer definite its correct. might be he desires to take a look at once more with u might be he quite is in love this time if u like this man ample to provide him an additional risk if u do make certain ur ready for the worst. as my mom constantly mentioned desire for the great plan for the worst =) well success i'm hoping the whole lot is going well for u u quite do deserve it.
2016-09-01 05:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is actually testing to see if you will be with (sleep with) him even though ya'll are broke up, so then when he goes out with another girl he can say that ya'll were broke up and not back together. Be careful unless he say's that he is sorry ya'll broke up and he wants to get back together.
2006-10-30 16:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than friends.... but don't let him use you - he may just want some and know where he can get it. Test him for a while before really giving into him!
2006-10-30 16:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u wanna progress in ur life then keep moving ahead, don't look back.
2006-10-30 16:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good God, Bubi, slow down and make them into complete sentences, honey.
Couldn't understand anything of all that stuff you just rattled off!
2006-10-30 16:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, you're rambling. You only broke up a week ago. That's really really recent. It'll take time to adjust to no longer being together. You should take time apart and NOT hang out with him so soon as it's confusing you.
2006-10-30 16:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
ask him what he want and why hes doing all that to you ask
2006-10-30 16:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
more than friends
2006-10-30 16:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by 约瑟夫 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋