sex until marriage?

Question

Okay why does it seem like everyone has already had sex?
I'm 18 years old, going to college and out of allll my friend I'm the only virgin.
It's so hard sometimes to save myself until marriage when everyone else talks about how good it is and how it gives you this special bond and what not.

I mean I'm not saving sex for myself. I'm saving it for my husband because someday he's going to be providing for me and my family for the rest of my life. Does anyone agree with this?

Answer 1

The decision is ultimately up to the individual. There is no right or wrong answer here. What's right for you may not be right for other's, but if you feel that what is best for you is too save yourself for marriage then that's what you should do and you shouldn't let anyone talk you out of it, or if one day you change your mind then that will be ok too, the point is that you just have to make the right decision for you and then stand by it.

Answer 2

No, let me tell you why. If you hold off for too long, you are going to crave it so badly that you won't be able to control yourself. Sex drive is a strong and natural thing that can only be tamed for so long. If you wait till marriage, you may find that you mostly married for the sake of having sex, like my sister did. You say you're not saving if for yourself? Most guys don't expect to marry a virgin, and most probably won't even want one. Virgins are inexperienced and in a way, you might later wonder and think about what you missed out on and what other guys are like. Explore now before you get tied down.

Another thing is that your husband might end up being bad in bed. Trust me, sex is a very important thing in a relationship and if it sucks, it could ruin it. What does him providing for you and your family have to do with you having sex now? Nearly everyone I around your age has had sex or will do so before marriage.

There is more to a women that what is between her legs he should marry you for being you, your personality. If your virginity is that important to your husband, than he just may be too controlling and possessive. Your body belongs to you and no one else. Remember that.

Answer 3

Yes, I agree with your opinion and I praise it. First of all, I too am saving it for the right woman in my life. I am male, single, and believe it or not, I am 24, and going on 25, and still a virgin. I do own my own car, college graduate, groomed well, and has a stable job...........and am still a virgin.

So, this is let you know that you are not the only person on earth that is still a virgin, let a lone a woman, but I am a man, and still a virgin. I think your opinion speaks volumes. You should be glad that you are a very special woman.

Take care.

Answer 4

what are you a Jehovah's witness? the bible says to save yourself, listen you need to save yourself for yourself. its called respect I would know I'm a 20 year old virgin. and if guys or friends cant dig it, then they must not care about you, besides if sex is what your basing your relationship on whats gonna happen at 60 years old when your going through menopause and he cant get it up, is your marriage going to fall apart, I sure hope not. and the only reason your friends or "everyone" is saying its so good is because they want to sound cool and feel important, when first of all I know allot of people that say it doesn't last long and it hurts, but second of all, its Satan's way of triking you into doing something you have No business in doing,.... unless your married. Soooo No I don't agree.

Answer 5

i definitely agree with you!!! I myself am a virgin who is waiting until marriage. I used to feel alone because i had some friends who weren't virgins. There was even one who said she was a virgin and later told me she lied. Bottom line I started meeting other people and found out a lot of girls my age (im also 18) are saving themselves for marriage. My friends through a slumber party and all but 1 of us were virgins. It was shocking because I put in my head that everyone is experienced but it is not true. Just surround yourself with people who have similar values to you and that will give you confidence and reassurance in what you believe.

Answer 6

I agree with you, because I' am a 20 year old virgin and the only one of my friends who don't have sex, so I know how hard it can be to wait. But I prefer saving myself for someone I' am passionate about, love, trust and respect. Hang in there and good luck, it great to see other women respect themselves too. It is a personal choice and a decision lifestyle, but you don't need a husband or man to provide for you, their are plenty of women who are strong, independent, and confident and are virgins who don't need a man to provide for them, they just want love and companionship. Take Adriana Lima who is sexy model and a virgin.

Answer 7

I agree with it. I was 19 before I lost my virginity and I did it just because I wanted to know what the big deal was. I wish I had waited until I was married!

Think about it, you don't have to worry about STD's or pregnancy or anything like that. You also don;t have to be upset about some guy dumping you after you sleep with him! Wait for your husband; someone who actually cares and appreciates the gift you are giving him.

Answer 8

Do what feels right for you.
I didn't wait until marriage, but I did wait until I was 23 and could deal with any fallout from sex.
If you want to save it, then save it.
BTW, my four closest college friends didn't lose it until they were 21, 22, or 23, either. None of them waited until marriage, but two of them have only been with their husband (they were dating/engaged at the time the deed was done). You're not as "strange" as you think you are. ;-)

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with waiting. Lots of good reasons not to like pregnancy,screwed up feelings, std's etc.. You're still very young. A lot of people are still virgins, they just lie to make themselves look better. If you want to wait till your married, go for it. It's your life, not anyone else's. : )

Answer 10

What the heck time period are you living in? And Im not referring to you being a virgin at 18 cause I was too - but girl - you do not need a man to "provide for you and your family" . You need to be able to stand on your own. ANd just because you are not having intercourse with someone doesnt mean you cant be doing other things.