Should I put a space on the invitations for single guests to bring dates even though i don't know their dates? What about children at the dance? how do I put that they aren't welcome unless they are 16 or older (to serve as DD's) and aren't to drink unless they are 18 or older?
2006-10-30 16:21:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well let me make one thing clear...The Drinking is what makes the dance fun. It in no way ruins the festivities at all and I for one plan to get SMASHED and hopefully my hunnie does to lol. #2 Having the children of guests that are 16 years old drive their parents home is not a big deal. #3 I in no way shape or form am feeding people I didn't invite or don't know. And you should have expected your close friends children to attend as they were no doubt close to your family members as well. #4 I'll make my wedding, reception and dance invitation only and you must be on the list to attend if that's what it comes down to.
2006-10-30 16:33:04 · update #1
No by Dance I mean Dance...And By Reception I Mean Reception (Meal, Cake, Gifts, etc)
2006-10-30 16:37:09 · update #2
LMFAO LOVKTR!!! your a retard.
2006-10-30 17:19:22 · update #3
nope
2006-10-30 16:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is for a wedding, right?
It is proper etiquette to allow your guests to bring a date - especially if they are an adult. Most people will feel uncomfortable not knowing anyone and without a date. And there will no NO "dance" going on if you do not allow dates.
Are you inviting children to the wedding? By "dance" do you mean reception?
There really is no proper way to exclude someone. You are suppose to address the inner envelope to the party & guest or each person invited if you know their name. At my wedding, I wanted no children however I did have to deal with a few people who RSVP'd and added their childrens name to the response. You just get over it....your wedding will be so wonderful and all these details will be minor when it comes down to it.
As for the drinking, I don't think you need to worry about spelling out that minors/unage drinking will not be allowed....
2006-10-30 16:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by smiley_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to allow your 1 guest to bring A date. No biggie, whether you know them or not it will make your guest feel more confortable. I don't know about the people attending your wedding, but it sounds like a whole lot of rules just to go to a "dance". And getting so testy over someone asking if you meant reception wasn't exactly nice...I mean you are the one having a dance which isn't common AT ALL. So, I'd chill and think about letting your fiance take over on this one. No wonder people are so stressed when planning a wedding!
2006-10-30 16:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Even if you don't leave a place for dates, you're still going to get them. Stop worrying about it and just accept it. We just got married 3 weeks ago, and one couple we invited (were forced to as they were 'close' friends of the MIL) and they brought 4 extra people--their ADULT children and their spouses!
2) Not having children at the dance is going to really limit some of your parents. You are now making them get babysitters, go home early, etc. What time is your wedidng?
3) DO NOT serve alcohol. It will seriously take up 50% of your budget easily. Do you really want a drunk Uncle Jack ruining your wedding? Think again. The wedding will take 6 hours at most--I think you all can do without the alcohol for 6 hours.
4) Do NOT ask a 16 year old to act as a designated driver! That's not fair to anyone.
2006-10-30 16:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a Dance being separate from the Reception, but to each his own. I think what you are proposing is perfectly fine. I wouldn't worry about people under 18 or even 21 if you are in the US, drinking, just let whoever is supplying the bartenders know in advance that their are underage people in attendance & to card everyone.
And as far as dates go, save your money, unless they have been with your guest for about a year, there is no reason to invite them.
2006-10-31 01:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is going on with you?
You seem to have a lot of hostessing problems with your wedding plans. Might I suggest you check a few etiquette books out of the library?
I certainly hope you are inviting all people, by name, to your wedding, reception, and dance. These things SHOULD, of course, be by invitation only in the first place-- not something that your situation "comes down to".
2006-10-30 20:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in no way shape or form feeding people I don't know. That's pretty harsh! Single guests can bring anyone they want whether you know them or not. And you will not know every single person, I guarantee it. You better watch how you word your invitations or you will insult alot of people. Short of causing a scene or guarding the entrance, you're pretty much stuck with extra guests/kids. Just smile & thank them for coming. Don't ruin your day worrying about petty things like having to feed an extra guest or two.
You will be too busy to get "smashed." Just as well...nothing uglier than a drunken, staggering bride.
2006-10-30 18:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
singles should be allowed to bring dates just because it'll feel awkward for them. but you can limit the amount of guests they can bring. and you can do an adult only reception...but just a warning, that will bring a lot of conflict upon family who have little ones. but you just have to know that if you're paying for the wedding and it's your wedding, you dont want to have to spend a lot of money on people that don't appreciate the wedding reception. a lot more people are doing it this way too just to have an adult only reception so that there can be more drinking and having fun.
2006-10-30 17:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might end up offending some of your close friends by telling them not to bring a date so If you are willing to have them not show at all then go for it, also where can 18 year olds drink? the law is still 21 right? for the kids maybe hire a few of the 16 year olds to babysit and set up a play area so they are occupied.
after re reading your question perhaps with your attitude no one will show at all, sure its your big day but get over yourself.
grow up. I hope one of the kids you dont want there throws up all over your redneck wedding dress.
2006-10-30 17:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette dictates that you must invite SIGNIFICANT (serious) dates but are NOT so mandated to invite "whoever's". So, for the ones you don't know about, I'd just put ONE name (how are YOU supposed to know???) and if that invitee calls you to request if they can bring a date, then say 'sure' if you can afford it. If not, practice a nice way to say "wow, I really wish I could, but....".
As for the 16 and up yr olds, I believe you can place that respectfully on the invites so that no one feels singled out. And the bar at your wedding will not be ALLOWED to serve the under 21 yr olds/18yr olds at your wedding no matter if you invited them or not so don't worry about that one :)
2006-10-30 16:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by miss_princess_goddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your rules are perfectly right. If singles bring dates, then they won't feel so lonely at the wedding and they might have a lot of fun with their dates rather than trying to have drunken sex with the bridesmaids. As for children, they really disrupt everything so allow only those above 12 (they're manageable) and no drinking unless they show their ID to the barman.
2006-10-30 16:28:45 · answer #11 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋