I really just couldn't get enough of it from him at that time.He was still trying to pursue me telling me i would be happier with him.But i always tell him what i feel...that i love my fiancee and he won't believe me.Maybe he's right but i dont know.Im confuse because i know i couldn't live without my fiancee and i know im gonna be happy with him.The problem is,everytime i think about sex,i think about my ex co-worker and not my fiancee.I know i was being a whore,i just really question myself about this.We stopped seeing each other now which im glad but i still miss the sex and i dont think this is normal.I've never done this before.Ever.
2006-10-30 16:16:23 · 25 answers · asked by mscofield 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your fiancee deserves better...this is not a slam @ you...However, If you are making a commitment to someone, don't you think they should be the first to know if your having doubts. Your fiancee deserves to be with someone who is thinking of him during sex. HOWEVER...if you truly are madly in love with your fiancee and want to make it work, then DROP the ex co-worker and teach your fiancee how to please you. Great sex is important...amen....but don't humiliate your fiancee by fooling around. Make a decision....
2006-10-30 16:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what he did was cheating. Unfortunately, how that makes you feel is secondary to what's more important. Your primary concern has to be what's best for your baby. That means you have to try to make things work. Kids need a father and a mother. And a single mother can't play both of those roles. Regardless of what some people might say, a mother alone can only fulfill the mother role. If he's taken these steps, it sounds like he wants to make things right. He has told you that he did it just to get attention. This all started around the same time as your baby was born. Is there a possibility that you've ignored him since then? Guys are too stoic to tell you that they need some attention. Unfortunately, the way guys tell you this is they start chatting with other girls or going and hanging out at strip clubs.
2016-05-22 14:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it IS normal. I did the same thing and went through the same conflicting emotions you are going through right now.
This was years ago but I learned something I value now.
You are in love with both of them but for two very different reasons. It would not be wise of me to tell you that you must decide RIGHT NOW.
That would be a foolish thing to do.
Sometimes it takes time to really understand where our priorities lie. Who we love the most, etc.
If I were you, I would postpone the wedding until I knew for sure, who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with more.
By sticking to the marriage plan with your fiance, is not good for ANYONE.
By the way, you're not a whore. What you're experiencing is WAY more common than you think.
I wouldn't mention the sex you have with your ex co-worker, to your fiance but I would tell him that you would like to postpone the wedding date until you'r absolutely SURE of what you want.
I know that sounds bad, to tell you to hide the fact that you had sex with your ex co-worker but I'll explain it this way:
Telling your fiance would hurt him. The ONLY thing people hope to gain by revealing all, is the fact that you are so honest. It would be like patting yourself on the back for being truthful, while ripping his guts out at the same time. It's just not a good idea.
NOTHING can be gained by it. Everyone loses.
I feel for you, sweetheart. I know what you're going through.
Take some deep breaths and see both of them for a little while longer before getting married.
You just might love your ex co-worker more than you realize.
Sex DOES play a HUGE role in a relationship.
Good luck and relax. This is very common.
Take care and give this whole situation more time.
2006-10-30 16:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there.
I guess in a way, I know how you feel, sex is a very passionate activity. Of course you would think about it if it was good, its just the same as enjoying dancing hot tango with a mind blowing latin girl, who knows how to do it - that I would remember for long time. So if I were to suggest something is try to restrain yourself from seeing your ex co-worker and try to have sex with your fiancee. Try new things with him, something different from what you did with your ex co-worker. But hey remember that sex can bring you on top of the world or sex can take you down to the most unpleasing experience, if you doing it wrong (or if your partner is doing it wrong), so take it slow.
Hey, good luck!
Z
2006-10-30 16:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Nick Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still miss the sex? That means, you're STILL only thinking about yourself. Let's get to the bigger issue here. You cheated on your fiance with a co worker. Have you told your fiance yet? Are you even going to tell him? You need to get your issues straight before walking down the aisle. There's a reason you cheated...something must be amiss in your relationship. You need to sit down, and have a talk with your fiance about what you did. Then decide what's missing in your relationship, that you're having to look for it elsewhere. If your relationship is meant to be, then it will be. I agree, you're not a whore, and everyone makes mistakes....we've all made them. However, you should seriously have a long talk with your intended, otherwise you're both going to be confused and miserable. Good luck!
2006-10-30 16:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..we are in the same boat here girl. I just posted some questions about this at http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsjAg2104HckuL.Vcz4FbpPsy6IX?qid=20061030203210AA5Saci
This situation sucks. I don't even know. Now I don't even know whether I should have sex with this new guy or what since I have a live-in boyfriend of 4 years. Well enough about me. I'm just gonna give you a lame suggestion, stay with your fiance. I am assuming that you and another guy are over. Oh1 one more thing, maybe you can spice up your sex life with your fiance by doing similar things you did with another guy.
2006-10-30 16:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl cheaed on me and i found out i left her cold never to speak to her again. if she had of told me rather then me finding out we could of become friends again in time. but most women i meet say the same things as you and they dont tell their men and there men find on down the line, and then have a man that doesent respect them due to ther fear of losing their man. so the choice becomes A: lose of a man but it may be reconciled or B: marrage with a loss of respect. and from the mans perspective the woman has always been shafted in the end( or the man if hes the one that cheated and lied).
2006-10-30 16:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to face your co worker and tell him on the face that it was a mistake and it will not happen again. Next you need to talk toy our fiance and let him know without the details of what is going on
You cannot love one man and sleep with another, even chicken do ot behave that way. Respect yourself!
2006-10-30 16:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is a lot more important in a relationship then people really like to admit....you can have a great relationship with really lousy sex... or a crappy relationship with really great sex....the non sexual relationship will always keep you wondering and fantasizing about great sex... it can be a real downer on a relationship....great sex can always make things better....
2006-10-30 16:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your not a Whore, he just was there for you...but really when you love someone, you shouldn't sleep with no one else..but get over it, and move on...maybe your fiancee isn't the one for you....
2006-10-30 16:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋