I am currently putting together my wedding guestlist and have a question. I have a cousin that I can not stand but am inviting her parents and 2 brothers. I don't really want her there if I can help it but feel like I have no choice to invite her. Is it so, that I have no choice but to invite her? Or are there any creative ways that could get me out of inviting her?
2006-10-30 16:12:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hihi. i feel u, cause I have a cousin who i can not stand either. I am not getting married and i never ever ever ever talk to her. do u think i would invite her to my wedding???
you r an adult, u dont need reasons. Remember when u were a kid and ur father/mother used to say "cause i said so" "this is for adults" now u r the adult. Its now a "no reason needed" time, or at a bare minimum say "i hate her, she is a ... and dont want her there" Enjoy it, i am SURE, once u do it u will feel so much better.
2006-10-30 19:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Nick A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your wedding and in theory, you can do whatever you want, but you already know that if you invite her parents and her brothers and don't invite her, you're going to cause a very bad situation in the family. So just grin and bare it. She'll be on her best behaviour - or, she may decide that she has some other 'pressing engagement' that will, unfortunately, make it impossible for her to attend. Either way, you're putting the onus on her. So just relax, and enjoy your wedding day. Life's too short to sweat the small stuff and truly, in the overall scheme of things, this is small stuff.
Hope the sun shines all day for you, and everything goes well so you have beautiful memories of the day.
2006-10-31 00:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you really need to invite her since you are inviting the rest of that family. The only way to get out if it would to be not to invite her parents or brothers either.
I would look at it this way...If you invite her you are the better person and really it's your wedding and that in the whole scheme of it is such a small detail. You will have such a great day you won't even notice whether she is there or not.
2006-10-31 00:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite her.
If you dont: talk about awkward! Everyone is going to know that she wasn't invited, and you're going to look like the evil witch of the west. Even if you don't really like her, do the right thing and just invite her.
If you do: she may actually be nice to you. Besides, you aren't going to have a lot of time to spend with individual person there. Trust me--you're going to find yourself busy with the day, the events, and the people who can't stop hugging you! My cousins flew all the way from Thailand to see the wedding, and I spent a whole 5 minutes with them at the wedding!
2006-10-31 00:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the invitation to her parents "and family." If she feels the same way about you, she can just not come without the two or you ever having to discuss it. And you won't have to force yourself to actually put her name on the invitation.
2006-10-31 00:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by melsmailboxis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes living in the same house it may be hard not to...Put the names of the persons invited on the invite...Hopefully when they respond only the amount of names you put will be coming...But its your wedding girl, invite who you want to be there, not those who will make you angry just looking at their face....
2006-10-31 00:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you and your cousin could be civil to one another for a couple of hours. Not inviting her could insult her parents, and that wouldn't be good, either. Remember, at the reception you're going to be busy with so many people you'll hardly notice she's there.
2006-10-31 00:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by cornermoose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully she feels the same about you and won't show up... I'm guessing that even if she does come you'll be so busy with the actual day that you won't even see her except for when you greet your guests... it's the polite thing to do unless there is a real reason that everyone will understand for not inviting her.
2006-10-31 00:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by dang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the sake of your sanity, invite her in the hopes she will decline. i am sure that there will be no problems the day of your wedding but for the sake of you starting a feud with the family, save face, invite her. good luck and congrats
2006-10-31 00:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to invite her. Sorry, but it's your only polite option.
2006-10-31 14:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋