I am 20 now and I live about 2 hours away from my mom. My mom has lived a really rough life when she was growing up. She has been married 4 times to all verbally abusive men. I got out while I could and moved in with my grandma at 15. When I was in 6th grd. my mom went through a manic pshycotic break down. She started talking all crazy and she was all parinoid thinking that people were after her. We had to admit her into the hospital and she was diagnosed with Bipolor disorder. My brother and sister were too younge to understand what was going on with our mom but I felt like I had to change roles and help her. My mom eventually got better after being on meds. Since then my mom has had a total of 7 break downs. We dont know what causes them. She is now going through a break down. For an example of things she says: Nazis are after all of us, she has cancer, she talks to dead people. She thinks she is being followed. What can I do? I live so far from her and my sister is so scared.
2006-10-30 16:09:22 · 11 answers · asked by angel l 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Also, she is making a scene in public. She is crying one min. and laughing the next. My whole family is fed up with her. Since she is divorsed, no one can legally admit her this time. Everyone gave up on her. The dr said that each time my mom gets sick that the chances get raised of her saying like that. I cant lose my mom to a sickness like that. I dont know what to do. Since no one will help her I am stuck away from her. Everyone is just letting her get worse. What is wrong with her and what can I do? She is only 39!!!
2006-10-30 16:14:01 · update #1
Registered Nurse here; Hun first of all you have had a tremendous burden placed upon your shoulders. Mental Illness in this form of severity, can strain and stress out the most caring of families. It's apparent she is either off of her medication regimen, or the medications need to be reevaluated and new ones started. As for your on Sanity, and that of your sister, I would recommend your mom be admitted immediately to a psychiatric facility. And the most human thing you can do, is be supportive to her, send her cards in the mail, call when possible. Most likely for the first few days to the first few weeks, your interaction with your mom, would not be beneficial. Wherever she's admitted the staff can assist you with this decision. I don't mean to sound cruel, but this is not your fault, probably not anyone's fault. Mental Illness, is like many other illness, they just return and return. Please take care of yourself, enjoy your life, don't allow your mother to dominate your life, and be supportive as you can to your sister, and share with your sister, her mental illness requires professional help, and the both of you can best help her, by taking care of your self's. I'm truly sorry, I know this is a tremendous burden. Thank you for the opportunity to address such a sensitive question. Again, please don't let the chaos take over your life.
2006-10-30 16:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Strawberry Pony 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say how sorry I am for what your family is going through. It sounds to me that she has been misdiagnosed. She may have Bipolar Disorder , but she definately has Schizomanic Episodes which in itself is very hard to treat. You must, and I can't stress enough the word, must get her checked in to a local mental institution so that she can get started on the correct meds and dosages. Check with your local MHMR (Mental Health and Mental Retardation) if you have to and they will direct you on what to do next especially if she is a danger to herself or to others. Don't try to take this burden on yourself and don't feel like you are abandoning her or just leaving her somewhere with a bunch of strangers. There is only so much that you can do, then they rest is up to the doctors, the mental facility, and your mom. Be there for her as much as you can, but mental illness will take you down with it before you know it. Be strong for the rest of your family. God bless you...I will be praying for you.
2006-10-30 17:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Elsa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being bipolar is hard and dealing w/a bipolar person is even harder. If you think that she is a threat to herself or your siblings call the police and ask what the exact protocal is. She can be taken (forced to go) to a hospial and be put on 72 hr watch. In addition there is this group called the national alliance for the mentally ill www.nami.org and they have meetings all over for family members of people w/mental illness. that may be a good place for you to start and/or get info to help your mom. your sis could also go to the meetings in her area. it may help her create a support system. Your mom sounds like she is in a psychotic phase and if you are concerened about her saftey i would get her put on a 5150 or something like it so she could be assesed in the hospital
2006-10-30 18:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a doctor but it sounds to me that your mom might be suffering from schizophrenic. I do know that if your mom is on meds that if she alters them in any way they lose some of their effect...( like drinking, heavy smoking or forgetting to take them a few time.).. some time the meds might have to be changed because they might not be strong enough or a different kind of medication will have to be given. you really should contact metal health in your area and get your mom some help. because i know that this is very painful for you and your family but your mom is also suffering ........... best of luck.........
2006-10-30 16:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by cheyeel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone for everyone but if you wait too long the medication will ruin her brain forever. She is still young but is afraid to leave friends and family. She must learn she became crazy from her depression from friends and family. How can she ever leave the group and find the right man.
2006-10-30 17:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having had a family member that was bi-polar I can only tell you that the only thing that worked was electric shock therapy. After 7 treatments she is now happy and leading a fully functional life. I wish you and your mom all the best.
2006-10-30 16:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by MegD22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's right. Maybe some of those things are really happening under our noses and we can't see them but she can. Maybe im crazy to say that.
You can always depend on your family to be there for you if they dont know it. Tell you siblings the truth and try to explain it to them so they understand what you do.
2006-10-30 16:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by druc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and your sister. Have you ever tried "intervention". If you don't know what this is, please log in to a&e.com and click on the show intervention. It will tell you all you want to know. May God be by your side and your family at this trying time.
Good Luck and Good Health
2006-10-30 16:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. She needs to be taken care of by mental health professionals through medicine and therapy. Her breakdowns and episodes are likely triggered by stress.
2006-10-30 16:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing, you have a few choices here, you could move closer to home to help, have her admitted again, have your sister come stay with you till she gets over it, I don't know what else to say, try not to worry too much, it is not good for your health, I hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-30 16:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by kat_lucas60 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋