My inlaws think we live a shabby life, our home might not be a better home and garden house, but it's our first one, They never come over and give us money sometimes. My husband makes more than 4,000 a month?! Why do they keep on giving us money and clothes for the children. I dress up to go out, I have a nice car, my children wear name brands and I'm confused, they make us feel sorry...for ourselves? I was raised to be good and polite in society and good hygeine is important to me. My hair is nice and perfect..sometimes, but I'm a mom of two and have a busy lifestyle. Why do they think we need money? I keep track of the money and where it goes, so nothing is going on being my back. What's going on that they think we live in poverty. Their house was smaller than ours until it got flooded out and they built a nicer one. I don't know.
2006-10-30 16:06:37 · 10 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she always asks if I need help with money to fix up our house and I of course say know so they think I owe them something like they think we do now.
2006-10-30 16:07:34 · update #1
boy do i know how you feel! its hard but just try to ignore the comments. as for offering money maybe they are just trying to help. I know how you feel though, i've been in that situation! really, there's not much you can do unless you are willing to talk to them about it. tell them it bothers you when they offer you money and buy your kids clothes. in my situation, my in laws just felt like they wanted to help. of course i took it personal, and still do once in awhile. sorry i can't offer more help other than to say just talk to them about it, or don't accept the help at all.
2006-10-30 16:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by abcdefg123456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that they just do things differently than you are used to. They may be offering money because that is their way to love their son and his family. You did not mention that they have ever said that they think you live a shabby life, only that you are interpreting this by them giving you money. What does your husband think about this? They are his parents, he should deal with it. Don't sweat it. Obviously it bothers you, so do as everyone else said, put it into a trust account for your kids. Don't be so sensitive or defensive about your performance as a wife and mom, you didn't mention either that they have criticized you in this area either, if they haven't and you are just assuming, then relax and rest in that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks, you feel you do a good job, and as long as your husband is happy, that is all that matters.
2006-10-30 19:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop taking money from them as of now. If they want to give you money, tell them, no , if anything buy something for the children or put it in a trust fund. You're managing very well, thank you! Thats it. With children your house cannot look perfect, just keep it relatively tidy. If you're happy with what you've got, let them know.
2006-10-30 16:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then admire your husband and circulate. there is often 2 sides to a narrative, and you're in basic terms giving your side. What could have brought about this type of habit from them? You did no longer point out what style of feedback the different babies make to yours, and you probably did no longer point out while and how this started. How did your husband become this manner of large guy from this manner of terrible and thoughtless kinfolk? I come from an quite great kinfolk, and that i hit upon it particularly no longer common to have faith that everybody on your husband's kinfolk treats you and your babies poorly. there is a few thing lacking out of your posting, and all of it seems very one-sided.
2016-10-21 00:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question...your in-laws are being generous with strings attached...either ask your spouse to tell them to keep their money and opinions to themselves or learn to just ignore their comments. You can always take the money they give you and put it in college funds for the kids, thank them sweetly and go on about your life. It's your life, not theirs, you and your husband must live it the way YOU want to, not the way others wish.
2006-10-30 16:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear you dont live a shabby life your more than average i think thy are jealous and wants their son back with them and looking at your avatar i really saw that your more than average they think you need the money because you now have a smaller house then theirs if your house was oK with the 2 kids inside then dont change or renovate
2006-10-30 16:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to let your husband handle it and you stay out of it or they will all be on you. After all they are his parents. Let him refuse the money. Always make peace if you can, life is better that way.
2006-10-30 17:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they insist on giving it to you, start putting it in college accounts for the kids. Tell them too. like, if they give you $300, say "Thanks! that's a hundred dollars closer to Harvard for each of them;-)
2006-10-30 16:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that they are jealous that at your point in life you have more than they did when they were your age and don't know how to deal with it.
2006-10-30 16:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful that they care enough to try to help , whether you need it or not . maybe they need to feel needed , maybe they are just generous.........
2006-10-31 18:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by sindi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋