I have a new baby girl, I'm a stay at home mum and wife. I have no family here and limited friends due to not being able to go out or work. I want to go and visit my parents and friends but my mother inlaw keeps at my husband not to let me. She has said to me before that my parents stopped being my family the day I got married. I want to move to somewhere where I have a support network but my husband doesn't want to leave... I don't know what to do??
2006-10-30 16:01:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would personally let him know that a marriage is a give and take relationship! Additionally,both people are supposed to honor AND support one another. Ask him to sit a spell and figure this out with you!That should also mean HIS parents stopped being his family in this situation!
2006-10-30 16:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You build your network now where you live because you need it now. The mother-in-law is very mistaken about your parents. They are your family forever and nothing can change that - be glad of it too! Your husband needs to hear what you feel about visiting your parents and understand that he is married to you, not his mother. Husbands support wives. Any questions? Open up the communication lines and change things for good. You can do it.
2006-10-30 16:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, your own family will stay your family no matter what any one says, secondly your inlaws should mind there own business, talk to your husband because he is your family now and tell him about the importance of being with your own and friends just like him being with his mother. The effect on not speaking or seeing your family can lead to stress and even depression, especially since you have a young baby and alot of time. think about it seriously.
2006-10-30 16:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother n law is a tad overbearing.... and she needs to be put in her place... fast !!!!! YOU need to get a grip and stand up for urself enough to tell hubby and his mom, that you are an adult, wife, mother, and NOT a slave to be locked up in a cell....... start putting money into a savings account for a trip home to see your parents.....then when the time comes, inform hubby, ask him if he wants to go, if not, buy a round ticket and GO !!!!!! God bless
2006-10-30 16:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋