Ok we dated and slept together 15 years ago and then recently started something up again. I have always had a crush on him. I mean a major crush and now that we have been together alot of times he started this thing this weekend that there is no we and he wants no relationship, I am so bummed. Can anyone help? I think it is like that book he is just not that inot me but I am hoping for a different outcome I thought it was fate that I would see him again but instead it is a disaster. he want so to be friends only (with sex) and nothing else and I am not this way when I sleep with someone I like commitment. I so wish it was different what can I do to save it I do not want to loose him again? I will never have him back. I am not desparate but he means alot to me as a friend and a relationship.
2006-10-30 15:58:29 · 9 answers · asked by lovmen1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think your old enough and wise enough to fig it out all the cards on the table and he has told you what to expect. nothing so maybe fate brought you back but yet your wise enough to see thru it all. sounds like you know the ans. and its a tuff one . i would be hurt awhile and let him go. as sounds like he reaps what he wants and your left empty handed.
2006-10-30 16:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is using you. The sooner that you realize that, the sooner you can save your dignity and find someone who'll appreciate you for who you are not...not for the sex. You deserve better than this, why does he want to have sex if he wants to only stay a friend? That's not a lover and that's below what your deserve. Improve your self confidence by doing this course if you like www.selfconfidence.co.uk and do give the book "He's just not that into you" a thorough read. This relationship will only hurt more and more as time passes when you hold on and he finds a woman that he does want to commit too. Make a clean break and dump him, don't show that you're needy of him because he'll only take more advantage of you. You're right in liking commitment, don't settle for anything less.
2006-10-30 16:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't seen him in 15 yrs. recently started up again and slept with him again. He's not the committed kind you need to show him you don't want to be "booty call" either just as he wants no relationship. So be friends with him. In that 15 yrs. you are not who or what he thinks and expects. DEFinatly go out with someone else even if it's platonic!!
2006-10-30 16:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you what he wants. If you don't want that, then you must tell him to hit the road and stick to your guns.
He sees you as a booty call (hence "friends with benefits"). There's nothing wrong with that, unless YOU don't want it to be. You can't force him to change his mind. Move on, forget him, if you can't do the friends with benefits thing.
He knows you are sweating him, so he figures he can call the shots as he sees it -- only you will never have him to keep to yourself. So move on. Stop wishing. Wishing is for five year olds into Disney.
2006-10-30 16:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. He has been honest enough to tell you that he doesn't want a relationship, so what don't you understand? You cannot love him enough for the both of you. Accept the truth and work on loving yourself so that you can find the right person to reciprocate.
2006-10-30 16:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by cricketfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not a bond, and that is where we go wrong. We cannot hod people we love by having sex with the. If they want to leave, they will come have sex and leave anyway and you are left feeling like a rag...come on girls!
2006-10-30 16:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. say "No we.....well then I charge $100 an hour tips are optional "
2006-10-30 16:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by vengeance01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult and don't know what to do?Gee your in trouble.
2006-10-30 16:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let yourslf be used
2006-10-30 16:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋