I have a question about my father. He treats me badly. He was never a good Christian role model. I know he loves me but he curses at me a lot and is verbally abusive to my mother and I. The other night, my girlfriend and I were at his house holding hands on the couch. I know this story sounds childish and stupid.. My girlfriend said something about the F- word being in the dictionary. I whispered in her ear and she playfully slapped me on the arm. I do not remember what I said, but it was not anything bad. We were just flirting with each other. My dad saw me and thought I had said the F-word to my girlfriend. My girlfriend is 19 and I am 22. He gave me a horrible dirty look and continued to glare at me for the rest of the night. I was mortified. My girlfriend was meeting my dad for the first time and she saw his looks and asked me later why he was so mad at me. When I told her, she was shocked, because I had not said anything wrong to her, my dad just thought I had.
2006-10-30 15:56:49 · 8 answers · asked by TexasCowboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I tried to tell my dad what happened but he doesnt believe me. I do not have a reputation for a dirty mouth and he has never heard me say that word. What should I do? I know the Bible says to honor him, but he has put me through so much. I love him but I am tired of abuse
2006-10-30 15:58:13 · update #1
we dont live with him, we were visiting
2006-10-30 16:36:34 · update #2
if you dont live with him then dont worry about it.
live your life as you want to live it not as others want you to live it.
your father is verbally abusive as this is his only form of power over you.
the bible may say honour him but it also says do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
does that mean it would be right for you to be verbally abusive him.
i dont think he would like that very much so dont let him do it to you.
2006-10-30 21:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's not much you can say to someone that doesn't
want to listen to what you have to say. You said your 22, why don't you and your girl friend get a place of your own, this way
you can talk anyway you want. As long as your still living at your parents house he will always give you rules. Also he sounds a little controlling over you life and your mothers. I don't see what
religion has to do with anything, it's his attitude that is troubling
you and your mom. he needs to realize that your not a child
any more. All you have to do is watch what you and your girl-
friend say that's all. Say your sorry and move on. I have an Adult
daughter and she is 22 and lives with her husband and kids.
when they come over they know what to say and what not to say.
2006-10-31 00:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had issues with my mother all of my life. I love her very much. However, I made a decision almost two years ago to only have contact with her at family parties (christmas,b-days,ect) and I get sad sometimes that the relationship is no longer. But by far the best choice I have ever made. We are civil and speak when we see each other. I had to remove the bad.
2006-10-31 00:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by SAMANTHA T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the Bible says we have to honor our fathers and mothers but it does not say we have to be abused by them in any way right?! There is a time and place to joke about something like this but not to a point of abuse!We are still Gods children,and I highly doubt he would approve of the way your father treats and possibly abuses your family.Gods also expects us to honor our children and spouses right? Well anyways.....I am on your side!
2006-10-31 00:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have misunderstood. Like you wanted to fornicate right there under his roof or something.
Yeah, you already know what he's like. Your girlfriend knows now also. Nothing like a great first impression. Not much you can do about him. Got to watch what you do and say around him. Like he's a time bomb with a short fused temper. Or in the early stages of adult senility. Just be glad you don't live with him. Try to keep it that way.
2006-10-31 05:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all the bible does say honor thy mother and father. It also says judge not least ye be not judged. Sounds like it isn't gonna make any difference to your dad , because he is always right. Sorry.
2006-10-31 00:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by ktpt 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him when he's in a better mood. he needs to know how you are feeling. I'm sure he loves you and wants the best for you, but your an adult now, and he needs to respect you also. If he does not want to listen to you then you need to stop visiting with him, maybe that way he will miss you and wonder why you haven't gone to see him. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-31 00:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the bible does say that and yes I am a chirstian but I don't think you should put up with that there is a diffrence between honnoring someone and letting them be an azz to you.
2006-10-31 00:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋