2006-10-30 15:45:52 · 16 answers · asked by innu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At the knees, knocks them down every time....I wouldn't be with someone who is dominating me...If your in the begins of the relationship, stop this now...If the person has been doing this for a while and nothing has been done, the chances of stop this is slim to none...
2006-10-30 16:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them straight forward that you are not going to be dominated and you will make your own decisions (unless you are a minor and living with your parents and you can't tell them in just that way). When a dominant person gets too comfortable in running your life, they seem to get a hold on by it becoming a habit. Be on your toes and if you tell them you won't do something they want you to do, don't relent or they will walk on you forever.
2006-10-30 15:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them the truth about this trait, that domination stems from insecurity. There is freedom in security. Do you know the ingredients that make security?
2006-10-30 16:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, take responsibility of not just your responses to other people but also their response to you as we teach others how to treat us.
Ask your self, why do you allow them to dominate you? Once you find the answer you will find the way to break the shackles of self dominance, as I can tell, you are also bullying yourself quietly into not standing up to them, and also hating yourself for doing the same and have loads of hidden anger waiting to explode so don’t wait till that happens use your anger wisely to stand up to any bully in your life, including your own fears.
Ask yourself, why you give away your power to someone else, as that single answer can be a breakthrough you have been looking for. You need to go within and find the answer that what am I trading off my power in lieu of. Is it approval or some reflected glory or light, why do think by being pleasing enough or only by being dominated can have their company in your life. Ask your self, why you dim your light, your power and self respect in from front of someone who outwardly might seem more powerful or important?
Believe me, the divine resides in you does in that person and usually a bully is a meek person in disguise, as an empowered person doesn't need to be aggressive or bully others to get their way in their world. Instead they love to work together in harmony with fellow beings or co-workers.
Do you think you are not worthy of love with respect? Because that is what this relationship is yours is asking you to look into as you are creating this dynamics with the person, so once you take that responsibility you would be freed of blame and resentment.
If you just stay in your centre of self respect and begin to see them for what they are in your life, you will never allow any one, no matter how important they might be in your life, as NO one really is that important in your life to give up your self respect.
Connect with your inner self and then allow your light show you your power and your light.
2006-10-30 21:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't back down. If the person is rude don't react, don't smile or get upset. I have a problem of smiling when I'm nervous or intimidated. Just look em in the eye and stand your ground. Bullies will usually back down if they see they can't bully you.
2006-10-30 15:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the house for 8 weeks
and do not contact her.
Donot let her know about your
whereabout.
You can inform your parents
about this step.
2006-10-30 22:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by pianist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that it is you who is responsible for your own actions. what ever you do good or bad has consequences, and you will be the one to accept them, so why would you listen to when another person tells you what to do (unless parents). use your own mind, live your own life, don't let anyone take that away from you.
2006-10-30 17:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
Unless you are precise, as to who this "someone" is to you, i.e. is he/she your boss, he/she your spouse, he/she your friend, he/she your sibling, he/she your parent, he/she your colleague. Unless this is known, I can't give you a correct solution.
Try using your wisdom to tackle the situation & be happy.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 16:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by sensible scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give that person a nice ego rupturing trip......... be scarstic,throw tantrums...c'mon dont be that easy a game to be played....you've got the power to dominate the ones who dominate you..... dont act like a loser... stand up and fight back....... get goin with your ego rupturing stratergies...... attack.....its war time
2006-11-01 19:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know exctally but it depends on situations say no, keep your viwes too,dominate, is due to ego also,we can not change other person but can protacts ourself by his/her habits
2006-10-30 18:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by ansa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋